He Beat Me Up!
Yes he did, under an almond tree, in the dark of the night, and with a stick. It hurt, sooooo bad, it hurt so bad I could feel the pain in my heart and brain. I had bruises all over (thank God none on my face) but I did a good job of hiding it from everyone at home. I refused to cry, I just took all in and waited for him to finish, he was too strong for me and I didn’t want to cause a scene because people lived around there. When I left him that night I knew that was the last time I would ever be with him, when I left him that night, I knew I had left him for life.
How could he, how dared he beat me up, because what, he was my boyfriend and I loved lust him? I had no idea what love was at the time, I just felt good to be wanted by the opposite sex and since it was trendy to have a boyfriend, trendy in my own world then, (everyone I knew or chose to know had a boyfriend), so why not?
I Was Not Only Single, I Was Too Young.
How old was I? I had just turned 15 and I had so many parts of life to explore, the boyfriends was one of them. I new next to nothing about how things worked in this life, but I knew I could never be in an abusive relationship, I never saw my parents argue, exchange words or fight and I had told my self that any man that hits me will have that opportunity only once. And when I said this I meant in marriage, I didn’t think any “boyfriend” would have the guts to hit me, I was wrong.
Now why did he hit me? He expected me to meet him up some where and I didn’t get there on time, he asked of me from a neighbour and I was not at home, so I had gone to see “another boyfriend”. And I needed to be beaten, so I could what, learn a “lesson”!
And Then He Came Begging.
He said he was driven by jealousy, he loved me too much and couldn’t stand the thought that he was sharing me with someone else…ha, what a story! He said this to someone else because I didn’t even give him any opportunity to tell me his story.
Is that not the common trend of abusive relationships? They always beg and want you back, but then they abuse you again, naaa…I wasn’t going to fall for it. I was always scared of being spanked, ask my mother, and I wasn’t going to stand it now that I had the choice.
All this happened because I didn’t know any better, I had not met Christ and was Iiving the best way I knew to.
In case you are going through some thing like this right now, you can say no, you can walk away from that abusive relationship, it does not have to be hitting abusive, it could be verbal or sexual, or any other.
As a single person hoping to get married, you may want to hold on to an abusive relationship because you feel if you leave no one else would want you, it is not true. Do not keep thinking it would end one day…it could get worse.
I didn’t have enough sense to live right and pure, but I had some sense to walk away, you too can!
If you know Jesus and have Him as Lord and friend, it makes it a lot easier, He always helps and strengthens you to take the right steps.
Do you have any such story? Do you mind sharing?
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