THIS IS DANGEROUS! - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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                                                         (MONDAY’S MARRIED CIRCLE)
1st Scenario

She is very angry that he won’t pay her any mind, she says nags it over and over.  Right now she is tired of talking about it, talking has not yielded any positive result; it just leads to quarrels and fights, two things that have become constant features in their marriage.  She is so angry with him that she is no longer nice to him, cursing, abusing; she gets so bitter with him that she sees him through her bitterness, as a wicked and uncaring man, she begins to hate him. 
And then one day she gets so angry with his indifferent attitude, he says the slightest thing and she loses it, she snaps, she reaches out to the flower vase and smashes it against the wall. Still boiling, the anger growing, she picks up a stool and sends it flying across to the large TV screen and glasses are flying all over the room. Thinking that she had not made any impact since he is looking unconcerned, she runs out and smashes all the glasses, anything “smashable” on the car, the car is a complete wreck…

He has had it up to there! She is too busy, too busy with work, too busy with her career, the home and the children. She hardly even notices him, she barely has energy to “meet” with him in bed, she is always tired. He does not understand, he has asked time and over again if anything is wrong and she keeps saying “nothing”, she gets up early in order to have enough time to dress cute to work. Is there an admirer, is there someone who she is dressing up for, is there someone else?

How could she even think of cheating on him when he is being so faithful to her and their marriage? He hopes he doesn’t lose his temper over all this, she is pushing him to his limits and he can feel all his defenses giving in. He really doesn’t want to go back to that place where he has to “lay” his hands on her again.

But then this day, she nags and nags and nags and…well, he can’t take it anymore, so to release his piled up anger, he does it, he pounces on her like a hungry wounded lion, all his thoughts about her racing into his mind, flooding his head. He beats her black and blue…

These two situations were actually real life; I kind of tried to add some ambiguity though…

And you guessed the two couples worked it out right?! Wrong! The two marriages broke from the incidents despite all the parties who tried to intervene, the anger had gone too deep, the couples were no longer interested. Except God intervenes and HE SURE CAN, that is would be two more marriages destroyed, hearts broken and children torn apart, all because of ANGER.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”

Ambrose Bierce

“It is wise to direct your anger towards problems — not people; to focus your energies on answers — not excuses.”

William Arthur Ward

“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”

Mark Twain

“Don’t hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.”

Leo Buscaglia

“Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you are.”

Cherie Carter-Scott

Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:

Almighty God

Ephesians 4:26

Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.

Almighty God

Ecclesiastes 7:9

Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.

Almighty God

Psalm 37:8

Anger is a tool of the enemy, he always wants to steal, kill and destroy, that is his chosen ministry. 
Anger can destroy years of hard work, years of careful building, years of happiness.

Do not fall for it, protect your marriage, refuse anger!

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Mindy Harris
    Posted at 17:02h, 01 September

    new follower from the mom’s monday mingle, friend. thanks!

  • Laura Wells
    Posted at 22:27h, 29 August

    Powerful scenarios. Good reminder that there are two sides to every story. Our desires to be treated the way we want people to treat us are powerful.

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    Posted at 08:49h, 29 August

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  • Frank King
    Posted at 16:40h, 28 August

    We must be careful not to allow the cares of this world and the busyness of life to cause us to neglect giving due attention to our marriage. The devil will never fail to seize opportunity to weaken and destroy valued relationships. But as the people of God, we must not be ignorant of Satan’s devices (2 Corinthians 2:11).

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:02h, 28 August

      Very true, we must always be on alert. The devil knows loop holes when he sees them.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving a note.
      Have a super blessed week!

  • faithlovejoyhope
    Posted at 23:11h, 27 August

    Great post! Hubby and I always try to confront and talk about issues before they can get overblown in our minds. That old word “communication” is key if we want our marriages to work!


    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:51h, 28 August

      Truth Anna, communication will prevail over explosions. It makes marriage work.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving a note.
      Have a super blessed day!

  • Erin
    Posted at 23:03h, 27 August

    Amen sister. Your wisdom is beautiful and I am thankful you included those scriptures, so encouraging.

    Blessings to you!


    • Ugochi
      Posted at 13:18h, 28 August

      Thanks Sister! I am so grateful for your encouraging words.
      Have a super blessed week!

  • The Students Wife
    Posted at 22:55h, 27 August

    Its amazing how two people can see situations so differently. I think communication is such an important part of any relationship.

    I”m your newest follower from the Monday Mingle 🙂
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    • Ugochi
      Posted at 12:56h, 28 August

      Yes I agree, lack of communication or miscommunication can be a serious can really trigger anger.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving a note. Have a super blessed week!

  • Danielle Henderson
    Posted at 19:18h, 27 August

    Great post today! A good reminder to “refuse” anger when you feel it coming on! Thanks for sharing, Ugochi! 🙂

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 19:31h, 27 August

      Something we must refuse and refute too! Thanks for coming by and leaving a note too Danielle. I pray you have a super blessed week!