13 Aug BAD-MOUTHING
A Man Ran His Wife Down
Some years ago, I foolishly sat and listened to a man run down His wife before me. They were having some challenges in their home and in a bid to defend himself, to show how good he is, he literally destroyed his wife before me. I sat down there and listened to him, lots of angry responses bubbling up in me, but because He was way older and way bigger than me, I didn’t want to say those words as they were boiling in my heart because they might have come out very rude and offensive. I knew what he was doing was very wrong, and I was wrong too for listening to him, but at that time I lacked the courage to tell him so or walk out on him. I wondered as I left him how many other people he had talked about his wife in such a manner to. I wondered how he has caused people to perceive his wife. I must tell you the truth, I fought very hard to “be happy” with the man after that encounter.
Some do it ignorantly, they think they are just chatting, while some do it to gain sympathy from others, and some mean others just to defame their spouses.
We can either build our homes or destroy them by our actions. We must guard our hearts and actions on a daily basis to ensure that we are building our homes and not tearing them down. When we tear our spouses apart with our words, painting them black before others we are invariably tearing our homes apart, after all our spouses make our homes. When we talk bad about our spouses, people begin to see them in that light, it forms an opinion about our spouses in their hearts and affects how they relate to our spouses. They could even spread these talks and our spouses get to hear them and this might get horrible.
No matter what you face in your marriage or how bad your spouse is, it is unwise to go about speaking evil of him or her. Even if you are seeking help, you must not present your spouse in a manner to suggest that you are the saint while he/she is the sinner. And this all stems from what you think of your spouse, learn to think good thoughts about your spouse, so that you can speak good about your spouse, for the words you speak are seeds and they will surely bring in their harvests.
Love does not run his/her spouse down, does not cause him/her harm and does not speak evil of him/her. It is all up to you, to do the right thing for the right results. You can make the required changes now and get your desired result, a home where peace and trust abounds. Have you been building up your spouse and home up, or have you been tearing them down?
Rom 13:10 (WNT)
Love avoids doing any wrong to one’s fellow man…
For he that will love life, and see good days (in his or her marriage), let him refrain his tongue from evil… (Emphasis mine)
…he that uttereth a slander, is a fool.
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