I NEED TO KNOW (Part 2) - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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Last Saturday, I started on I Need To Know, attempting to answer some popular questions among singles according to God’s word, you can find HERE.  And like I said I would, I am continuing on that today, hoping you find some answers for yourself or someone you know. And please feel free to email or tweet it to someone you think might be searching for answers.

1) What To Do When It’s taking Too long

In waiting for your spouse, especially if you want the one sent by God, you have to wait patiently. To receive anything from God you have to wait patiently for Him, for His timing, His way of doing it. It is better to marry the right person after what seems like a very long time than to marry right now and live a miserable life, or get into the nasty mess of divorce, which of course can become the only option in some cases. You have to wait on Him and in Him, knowing that His will is the perfect one for you, trusting in His faithfulness.

Hebrews 10:36 
For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.

You must wait patiently for God, knowing that He will definitely come through for you. You must say like Job:

“…all the days of my appointed time will I wait, till my change come.” Job14:14

You have to depend on God for strength while you wait, you have to toughen up to all the challenges of waiting and make up your mind to wait for God’s best for you, do not condescend to anything less than God’s best for you.

You can read more about waiting HERE and HERE.

2) If It Is Okay To Date More Than One Person At A Time

A lot of singles ask if it is okay to date two people at a time, to give them more options.

I always say it is no good to date two people at the same time, if one gets to know, he/she would feel very insecure and might not be able to trust you anymore. No one wants to know they are in competition with some other person over you.

And besides, it is a lack of integrity on your part to do this: it can be likened to deceit; in fact I see it as deceit. Be a person of integrity, date one person at a time, if the relationship does not work out, it is okay to leave it, better a broken dateship or courtship than divorce, and be decent while you date.

Psalm 25:21 

Let integrity and uprightness preserve me; for I wait on thee.

3) If It Is Okay To Have Sex While Dating or In Courtship

This is always the star question when we have a singles meeting. One person always gets bold enough to ask this question in our midst even though it is in the hearts of almost all of them.

I believe that sex is absolutely unacceptable before marriage.

Sex is a covenant cut between two people in marriage, it is a covenant by blood and recognized by God, the creator of marriage. It was created by God to be enjoyed legally without any consequence by a man and his wife; that is God’s purpose for sex.

1Thessalonians 4:3 (CEV)

God wants you to be holy, so don’t be immoral in matters of sex.

Some people would tell you that if you loved them enough you would have sex with them, but you should tell them that if they loved you enough they would wait until you had the spiritual license for sex, the backing of God and that would be after you have been joined as man and wife.

Hebrews 13:4 (The Message)

Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.

And please take serious note that sex is no prove of love at all.

4) If Just Kissing is Okay

This is another star question, in fact a lot of people see nothing wrong with kissing at all, after all it is not sex, there is no intercourse with the genital organs, it is just kissing…they say.

Well, kissing is an exchange, when you kiss there is an exchange of saliva, it is an intimate thing that should be enjoyed after marriage, it is sacred, it is part of sexual intercourse reserved for the married,  and it builds up and could lead up to desires which you cannot not should not satisfy at the moment. Kissing is part of joining with someone, and any joiningbefore marriage is illegal before God.

Be wise, be real, kissing doesn’t always stop at just that, especially if it is continued, the mind and hands start fiddling, going places and touch spots it has no business with.

Do not allow the devil to trick you into thinking it does not matter, or that I am just taking this too far, it is the truth, trust me.

I am open to any more questions, just in case you have any. Have a super blessed weekend!;

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Clairejustine
    Posted at 20:33h, 26 August

    Hi thanks for joining us at welcome to the weekend hop again this week.Last week I could not follower properlyas my internet was slow!! but managed ok this week ,have a great week 🙂

  • Angie Ouellette-Tower
    Posted at 14:21h, 26 August

    Thanks so much for stopping by my blog – I’m following you back!

    Patience is the most difficult part but it is so worth the wait – I have been married for 17 years (to the man that God wanted me to marry). And, I’m proud to say that he is the only man that I have ever had sex with & that wasn’t until we were married – that also is so worth the wait.
    Thank you Ugochi for your wonderful insight!
    God bless!

  • God'sglory*7
    Posted at 23:26h, 25 August

    Bless you ma. If you ask me for sex before marriage. That is the proof that you are unfaithful and do not love me.
    And probably do not love God either. If we love God and His word then we will obey what He said. That the marriage bed be holy not defiled. Hebrews 13v4.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 07:36h, 26 August

      Exactly, anyone who wants me to against God does not have my good in mind at all!
      Thanks for coming by and leaving a note ma
      Have a super blessed week!

  • Chris Carter
    Posted at 13:06h, 25 August

    What a wonderful site this is!!! I love your biblical principles and encouragement!! Will definately send your link to my single girlfriends. visiting from SITS! 🙂

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 07:35h, 26 August

      Thanks Chris,
      I appreciate your coming by and leaving a note and thanks for sharing too!
      Have a super blessed week!