Last Saturday, I started on I Need To Know, attempting to answer some popular questions among singles according to God’s word, you can find HERE. And like I said I would, I am continuing on that today, hoping you find some answers for yourself or someone you know. And please feel free to email or tweet it to someone you think might be searching for answers.
1) What To Do When It’s taking Too long
In waiting for your spouse, especially if you want the one sent by God, you have to wait patiently. To receive anything from God you have to wait patiently for Him, for His timing, His way of doing it. It is better to marry the right person after what seems like a very long time than to marry right now and live a miserable life, or get into the nasty mess of divorce, which of course can become the only option in some cases. You have to wait on Him and in Him, knowing that His will is the perfect one for you, trusting in His faithfulness.
For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.
You must wait patiently for God, knowing that He will definitely come through for you. You must say like Job:
“…all the days of my appointed time will I wait, till my change come.” Job14:14
You have to depend on God for strength while you wait, you have to toughen up to all the challenges of waiting and make up your mind to wait for God’s best for you, do not condescend to anything less than God’s best for you.
2) If It Is Okay To Date More Than One Person At A Time
A lot of singles ask if it is okay to date two people at a time, to give them more options.
I always say it is no good to date two people at the same time, if one gets to know, he/she would feel very insecure and might not be able to trust you anymore. No one wants to know they are in competition with some other person over you.
And besides, it is a lack of integrity on your part to do this: it can be likened to deceit; in fact I see it as deceit. Be a person of integrity, date one person at a time, if the relationship does not work out, it is okay to leave it, better a broken dateship or courtship than divorce, and be decent while you date.
Let integrity and uprightness preserve me; for I wait on thee.
3) If It Is Okay To Have Sex While Dating or In Courtship
This is always the star question when we have a singles meeting. One person always gets bold enough to ask this question in our midst even though it is in the hearts of almost all of them.
I believe that sex is absolutely unacceptable before marriage.
Sex is a covenant cut between two people in marriage, it is a covenant by blood and recognized by God, the creator of marriage. It was created by God to be enjoyed legally without any consequence by a man and his wife; that is God’s purpose for sex.
1Thessalonians 4:3 (CEV)
God wants you to be holy, so don’t be immoral in matters of sex.
Some people would tell you that if you loved them enough you would have sex with them, but you should tell them that if they loved you enough they would wait until you had the spiritual license for sex, the backing of God and that would be after you have been joined as man and wife.
Hebrews 13:4 (The Message)
Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.
And please take serious note that sex is no prove of love at all.
4) If Just Kissing is Okay
This is another star question, in fact a lot of people see nothing wrong with kissing at all, after all it is not sex, there is no intercourse with the genital organs, it is just kissing…they say.
Well, kissing is an exchange, when you kiss there is an exchange of saliva, it is an intimate thing that should be enjoyed after marriage, it is sacred, it is part of sexual intercourse reserved for the married, and it builds up and could lead up to desires which you cannot not should not satisfy at the moment. Kissing is part of joining with someone, and any joiningbefore marriage is illegal before God.
Be wise, be real, kissing doesn’t always stop at just that, especially if it is continued, the mind and hands start fiddling, going places and touch spots it has no business with.
Do not allow the devil to trick you into thinking it does not matter, or that I am just taking this too far, it is the truth, trust me.
I am open to any more questions, just in case you have any. Have a super blessed weekend!;