Suspicion is not healthy for anyone, but caution is, though there is a very thin line between the two. When starting a date with someone you ought to be very careful not to just fall for everything…yet. It is good to try to really get to know someone before you give him/her any commitments. And do not let go of any nudge to dig deeper for a better knowledge of the one whom you are dating.
I say this because a lot of people have fallen victim of carrying on with some fake person who ended up hurting them in very terrible ways emotionally and some physically too. It is good to ask questions, find a way to ensure the answer you get is indeed the truth. I am not saying to doubt the one you date but to make sure you are not being lied to. It is good to believe in a person but best to believe in God and God will alert you on some things through His Spirit ministering to yours, He always puts a check in our spirits, we can choose to ignore the signals or do something about it. See, I know this because I was once a victim of deceit. I ignored all the signals I got, refused to dig a bit deeper for truth and fell for every lie I was told and the end was really bad for me. I also know a couple of people who have been deceived, and I know you know some too.
We have all kinds of people in the world, the good, the bad and the ugly and people date for different reasons: to satisfy their sexual urges, some for financial gains, some just for co-habitation, some to feel like achievers and get some respect. While some date for love, marriage and companionship, you should be able to discern why the other person is in the relationship.
Never get carried away by feelings and emotions, look properly, look deep, and seek to know the truth. Do not be deceived at all, take time to pray and seek God’s face before you even go on a date with anyone, what looks like an ordinary date could turn into something ugly if you do not allow yourself to be led by the Spirit of God. Everything physical is an outcome of the spiritual, the physical is controlled and run by the spiritual, so in order to have a successful relationship and marriage you must seek God.
It is through prayer that you can see and discern things you wouldn’t have seen from the physical. When you pray, God will reveal to you what you need to know, and it doesn’t have to be through dreams and visions, it could just be in seeing an attitude that is not acceptable. So before you make any move as regards dating, courtship and marriage, dig deeper than what you see, seek God’s guidance in prayer, for only He knows the deep things.
Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.
Matthew 7:7, 8
7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: 8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
Proverbs 3:5, 6 (MSG)
Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; He’s the one who will keep you on track.(My Emphasis)
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