I was in a gathering some years back when couples were called out in front of the audience and asked random questions about their spouses.
Questions about their spouse’s favourite colours, favourite foods & drinks, tooth brush colours, best sleeping positions, best way of relaxation and all…
It was very funny watching how some spouses were so on point in their answers and amazing how some just kept guessing while others didn’t even have a clue.
I believe there is always something new to learn about our spouses, but I also know that we should know our spouses better than anyone else, so well that we can predict them.
- By watching our spouses carefully with the deliberate intention to get to really know them.
- By asking direct questions in the quest. Of course we cannot remove spending quality time as a help towards this.
These two would work effectively if we ask God to let us into our spouses’ hearts. We should know our spouses to the point that we can stand and speak for them anywhere and in whatever circumstance.
We should be able to make correct decisions and judgements on their behalf when they are not there. I believe there is some element of carelessness in a marriage where a husband and wife know very little or almost nothing about each other; it may be the symptom of a severe disease.
Couples ought to know each other so well that it becomes easy to please each other, since they have come to know what they would like or dislike. When couples get to know each other in this manner, knowing what makes each other tick, marriage becomes a lot happier and joy full than when they work in assumptions or carelessness.
I am totally of the school of thought that when a couple of faith, base their marriage on understanding and following the word of God, their marriage is bound for bliss. We should also apply God given wisdom by deliberately pursuing this bliss and I know that getting to know each other so very well with the intent of working at making each other happy, pleasing each other, is one way to marital bliss.
So be observant, it could be a statement, body language, and sometimes even silence that could tell us something we need to know about our spouses. Remember to ask questions where and when necessary instead of assuming, this is one way to become one flesh and it could save your marriage a great deal of hassles. I also think, just for learning fun, you should play a game of Knowing Me: Knowing You.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:
Good understanding giveth favour…