09 Jun NO PRETENSES
|Blue 4 true|
As the years come and go and you wait and wait and wait…for that person who would come and just take your breath away, there would be one temptation you might have to deal with, faking you.
You see, a lot of times you might want to impress someone whom you think might be “the one”.
Now this is not a problem as long as you are just being you. It is good to just be you and let this person love you for who you are no charades, no pretence, and no falsehood. If you try to impress for no matter how long, the real you will show up someday and it might cause a huge rift or even just end it all.
Just imagine that you’ve known someone to be a certain kind of person and one day you discover that it has all been a lie. You really don’t know this person, I know you cannot really know all sides of a person but there are some basics that should help you decide whether or not to marry him or her. But you then realize that he or she did not let you into the real him or her. I bet you would feel bad about it and maybe even loose trust and doubt your decisions.
Now you see why it is important not to pretend when in a relationship, engagement or courtship. Or even if you just met this person, be yourself. If you stay your true self and he or she chooses to marry you with your pluses and minuses… we all do have both, then you can hope that nothing will change that.
It is good to admit that you are not perfect, but becomes a problem, if you decide not to work on your weaknesses.
I hear a lot of people say “she has changed!” or “he has changed!”, but most times they only just showed who they truly are…remember I said most times; sometimes some things do make people change.
So while you wait, help yourself and the guy or girl who you have to do with and be yourself. Let him or her fall in love with YOU as you are.
I know, I know I am sounding very repetitive but I really want to emphasize this because I find that a lot of singles try to win someone’s heart by being what the other person wants instead of being themselves, (now I do not mean you shouldn’t please him or her, but let it not be by pretence). For one day they might decide to be themselves and it is not well taken at all, they are called deceivers, pretenders, liars and more.
It is good to be sincere to yourself and your guy or girl, that way you have some kind of assurance that he or she knew you and still chose you.
Please be wise, do not pretend to be who you are not, while you work towards becoming a better you!