PURSUING PEACE - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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My husband was snoring away while I sobbed so hard, tears streaming down my face uncontrollably. I got even more upset at this and walked out the door with a big bang. I went into the study and hugged my knee to my chest expecting to see my husband walk through the door full of profound apologies for what he had done to me. He spoke to me in a very rash manner and I really truly thought he should apologize to me. Well I was wrong.I waited and waited and waited… he wasn’t coming.

I felt something someone tell me to go and apologise, I fought that immediately. Why should I apologise when he was the one in the wrong? That is not fair I thought. He will take me for granted if I do that, he would just keep hurting me and never say sorry. But I could not rest, I could not sleep, I just kept crying at the “injustice”. Why, why should i apologise, if I was wrong, I would understand, but I wasn’t or was I?
After hours of emotional and mental battle, I went into the room and found the man cosily covered to his neck with the quilt, snoring in bed. I was angry at him, how could he be sleeping and leave me in such misery? How can he hurt me so and have the heart to snore away? This isn’t fair, this isn’t fair at all! I cried a bit more. I almost stopped in anger but love will not let me.

I just stood and thought for a bit about what had happened and realised that I was guilty too, I had spoken in a very disrespectful manner to my husband, my head and my leader and that was very wrong.
So I tapped him, cried my apologies, he muttered something like, “it’s okay honey” and went right back to sleep. At that moment, such love and peace engulfed me and I just couldn’t help but thank God for not letting me remain in that misery through the night. It is good to be at peace in your heart with everyone, especially your spouse, the misery of strife in marriage or can kill.
No wonder The Bible says:
Depart from evil, and do good; seek peace, and pursue it.

If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.

Our ways are quite different from our maker’s and Father’s ways. He does not want us to go by our feelings and our rules, but by His principles. Obedience is very important to God, and promptly too. I bet He was not happy I hesitated but I believe He was that I finally obeyed Him.

I have come to know that it is God’s love that makes Him correct us.

The Lord corrects the people he loves and disciplines those he calls his own. Hebrews 12:6 (CEV)
I always rejoice and feel very loved when God corrects me, He does not want me to go wrong or stay in the wrong. He wanted me to enjoy peace in my heart and in my home; He did it because He loves me.
It is good to pursue and make peace as couples, it makes for marital bliss.
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

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  • Anna Popescu
    Posted at 20:13h, 11 June

    Thank you for reminding us wives that it’s silly to hold on to anger because that just fuels more anger plus resentment. And God doesn’t have that in mind for any of us. Blessings! Anna

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 20:55h, 11 June

      Amen Anna, anger only destroys truly. Thanks for stopping over and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate you.
      Have a blessed week!

  • Jonnique
    Posted at 23:35h, 05 June

    So transparent and beautiful! Glad I found you! Your newest follower via blog hop! Please follow back!?

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 23:50h, 05 June

      Hi J!
      Thanks for stopping by, and joining. God bless and have a great day!

  • cynthia
    Posted at 05:23h, 05 June

    What an incredible post. It is funny, when we are upset, we never think about the things that we have contributed to the situation. I have been married forever and I know that somethings my view gets a little one sided. Thank you for reminding us that a relationship takes two people to work it out and two people to fix it when times are hard. Cynthia

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 21:27h, 05 June

      Thanks Cynthia, selfishness does get in our ways many times. But if we work together towards the goal, we win!

  • Rocks
    Posted at 01:33h, 05 June

    Oh my..that’s me too!!! I wonder how men can do that while we women can’t go to sleep if there’s something wrong. But just like what you did, I always end up curling to his side and hugging him too 🙂

    God bless you!!!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 21:25h, 05 June

      I wonder?! What are they made off?! Well, I believe they enjoy us and our emotions sometimes…

  • kendra
    Posted at 00:49h, 05 June

    I had to chuckle a bit reading this, and wonder if you were maybe writing my story. Why is it we women can get so emotional and upset while the husband can be sound asleep?

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 21:18h, 05 June

      Really?! I guess it is most women’s story, too much emotions…ha!