LIFE WITHOUT REGRETS - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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I wish…..
I wish I was always obedient and respectful to my parents and siblings as a young girl. I am last of six children and was very outspoken and most of the time disobedient and heady in the house. I always felt I should be allowed to do what I wanted; no one had the right to infringe on my rights or desires. I was wrong…

I wish I had chosen the right kind of friends while I was growing up. I wish I had not met and allowed the friends I had to influence my choices and decisions as a girl.
I wish I had had the guts to disengage from the harmful friends I hung out with instead of holding unto them just so I could feel wanted. I wish I had joined with the girls who had pure love for me even though they were not the very popular ones. I was wrong again…

I wish I had faced my studies in school like I should instead of following my passion for music and shows, I wish I had known there was a right time for that. I wish I had my priorities straight and focused as hard as I should to get the grades that I so had the potentials for rather than follow things that I might have been able to better accomplish if I had waited for the right time.

I wish I never moved into the school dormitory. I wish I had continued going to school from within the confines of our home and under the watchful eyes of my very sensitive mother. Instead of moving into school hostel where I got exposed to things I was never prepared to face. Things my parents who love me so much never thought necessary to talk to me about.

I wish I had known that all the men boys who had told me they loved me were only trying to use me to satisfy their desires; I wish I knew they were only lying. I wish I knew believed that marriage is the only approved and safe place to get physically intimate with men. I wish I had stood my grounds and told them to their faces that sex was no proof of love.

I wish I had listened to my French and literature teachers in secondary school who loved me with love so pure and true, who never got tired of pointing me to the right direction. I wish I followed their counsel and talked to them about the challenging decisions I had to make. If only I knew…

I wish I had known or rather accepted the love of God much earlier than I did. A loving God who never stopped chasing after me, putting people in my path to help me get to Him. The God who tirelessly and frantically kept pulling me towards Him, who wanted more for me than I ever dreamed of. I wish…

I have faced some very severe consequences of these poor choices I made in my life. I have had cause to ask myself why I didn’t choose wisely. I have realised that whether we know it or not we create our future by the choices we make today. Especially if we choose to live our lives without the directions of The One who brought us here.




But you know what?! I don’t have to live in regrets over my past. I am a new person, living a new life, cleaned up from every past mess, bought by a price whose value cannot be measured. I don’t have to look back at my past and hate myself, I don’t have to feel guilty of the pain I caused my Father, He has loved me out of all of that. I am free from the condemnation which the enemy wanted very badly for me. Ha! I can laugh, shout for joy, enjoy my life, and live it to the fullest.
2Corinthians 5:17
Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

I can guide and counsel others because of my experiences, I can be a light to someone in the dark, I can tell someone that I’ve been there and done that, and that this side I am on is so much better. I can help someone cross over to this side, to the light, to liberty, to true freedom. Romans- 8:28 
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

You too do not have to live in regrets, if you are like me who has lived a not very good life style in the past, you can break free too. You can begin to make the right choices from now on. You can accept and receive the love of God who wants the best for you more than you even want it for yourself. 2Peter-3:9 
The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.

1John 4:9-10
In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him.
10 Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.

Making the right decisions always, in everything and every circumstance gives us a regret free life. If we always choose and work towards the right, then we would have almost nothing to regret in life. To live a life of no regrets today, we must choose the right today.
I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life that both thou and thy seed may live: 

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Diane
    Posted at 23:10h, 23 June

    Absolutely inspirational. I wish that all young women, and even the older ones could read this. Could keep their choices and decisions pure and clean. And know that, if they have made wrong decisions in the past, they need not be weighed down by them. That they, too have access to a loving God and to forgiveness brought by His Son. Beautifully, thoughtfully written. Thank you for sharing on NOBH!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 07:34h, 24 June

      Thanks Diane,
      It is so reassuring to know that God loves us inspite of our pasts, and He can give us a new begining.
      I appreciate your coming by, have a great week ahead!

  • Taylor Gilmore
    Posted at 14:48h, 21 June

    This is a beautiful post. As I was reading it, I was reminded how dark and filled with regret my life would be if it had not been for the loving Father who refused to abandon His desire to save me from myself.
    Many Blessings!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 07:30h, 24 June

      Isn’t this the story for all believers? We were all in the dark, but His love brought us to light. Thanks for coming by Taylor.
      Have a great week ahead!

  • kendra
    Posted at 14:00h, 16 June

    Stopping by again to tell you I nominated you for the Sunshine Award on my blog today because you are always so inspiring!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:09h, 16 June

      Thanks Kendra,
      I am lost for words. I appreciate all your encouragements. Have a God filled weekend.

  • Cynthia
    Posted at 08:55h, 15 June

    Hi Ugochi,

    What a powerful message about how God understand your past and helps you to accept your learning by trial and error lessons. Thank you for another wonderful article.


    • Ugochi
      Posted at 18:59h, 15 June

      God’ s mercies and grace cannot be fathomed. Thanks for coming by K, have a great weekend!

  • kendra
    Posted at 22:27h, 14 June

    As always I am encouraged and uplifted by your blog.
    Have a blessed day!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 18:58h, 15 June

      I’m glad you are, and you have a blessed day too Kendra. And thanks for coming by.

  • misssrobin
    Posted at 20:40h, 14 June

    What a beautiful post about the power of God in your life. How wonderful that you openly share your testimony. Thank you.

    Stopping by from SITS.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 20:46h, 14 June

      All praise to God, He is full of grace and mercy.
      Thanks for coming by.
      Have a great Thursday!

  • teaandtestimony
    Posted at 17:55h, 14 June

    I loved this one because I cannot be reminded enough of the Grace which destroyed my regrets!
    It’s really difficult as mere humans to understand a love so powerful. Thanks for writing! I really enjoy hearing what you have to say! 🙂 God Bless!!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 20:44h, 14 June

      How great and boundless is His grace and love for us. Thanks for coming by.
      God’s grace!