You: Hi, good afternoon.
Him/her: (Silence) just looks up from desk
You: Please I’d like to see Mr Abel.
Him/her: He is not on seat. (Not looking up)
You: Any idea where he went, do you think he’ll be long,?
Him/her: (Raised and angry voice) I don’t know! Am I supposed to tell everyone who walks in here where the boss went and when he is coming in? If you do not know how to contact him, I cannot help you. If you don’t mind, I am busy!
Have you ever had an encounter like this? You meet someone for the first time ever and they just put you off. You know those people who don’t seem to realize that first impressions matter? They just behave any how they like to everybody they meet. I agree to the fact that first impressions matter…a lot. But there is another side to this I would want to talk about here.
Have you ever wondered why some people get upset about everything almost every time? Have you ever wondered why some people cannot even accept it when you try to show them some love? Have you ever found it difficult to understand why you ask a simple question and he/ she just flies off the handle?
I have wondered, until I gave someone I met a closer look and a second chance. In order to maybe get a second impression of her before drawing any negative conclusion. She was going through a season in her life that put her under a lot of pressures; unfortunately she didn’t know the right way to deal with it.
I discovered that most times people like these are going through things too hard for them to bear at that time. It could be a loss, financial hardship, relationship issues or something else. People are going through so much, so many are in pain and hurting, and without a clue as to how to deal with and overcome their issues.
I agree that first impressions matter, and that one might not get a chance to make a second one. But can we just give people several chances, get to know them, try to see if we can help them and don’t just make up our minds about them?
I know that sometimes when I am going through stuff I am not a very nice person. So why should I just write people off on first impressions, without even knowing them for who they really are? I also know that what is on the inside is what a person displays outside but when under pressure sometimes people misbehave, maybe they are still growing, maybe they just slipped, or maybe, just maybe they need someone to love them out of the misery they are in at that moment.
Is it possible for us to give people several chances as we try to know them better? Is it possible for us not to all the time judge people on the first impression they create before us?
If you think back you may remember that you have once or twice been mean to someone, not because you are a mean person but because you were facing some difficult times, you may remember a time that you didn’t have it all together. If that is so, then please don’t always judge people on first impressions, give them opportunities to give you impressions of who they really are or who they could be.
… He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.
Proverbs 10:12 (CEV)
Hatred stirs up trouble; love overlooks the wrongs that others do.
And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us…
Please share your own encounters and experience with us.