WHAT DO YOU TALK ?1 - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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We live in days where there is so much decadent in morals. People talk anyhow and say anything without bothering to know the meaning, implication or consequence of their utterances. On the streets, on television, over the radio you hear people say things that send unimaginable pictures to the mind. Decency and caution is thrown into the wind, people no longer care how what they say affects who they talk to or who might hear it, or worse still, themselves.
Words like crazy, nonsense, stupid and even silly are used in very insulting and abusive manners. Obscenities are “normal” and do not matter, after all, it is the popular word, everyone says it. Or it is just slang, no offense meant. Or it is only a joke, and shared before adults. Some people, especially young ones have vocabularies rich in the F-word, a**h**le, and other curse words. I consider this very inappropriate if we are going to help our young ones live a good life.

We get these things from the media: music, movies, magazines, and the likes. These words have a way of affecting the mind and attitude of anyone who constantly listens to them. The person begins to say them and behave them. Little wonder our young ones are getting into all manner of vices: murder, porn, rebellion, abuse… 

There are good words to say and good ways to say them. You do not have to talk dirty in order to be hip, or accepted in society. Words have power; they play over and over in the mind and begin to affect the mind and attitude. Wrong choice of words leaves a wrong message in the hearts of the hearer.
Be responsible, it is irresponsible to talk flippantly and dirty because it is trending. Do not let other people or trends make you say anything that will damage or negatively affect someone. Do not be too careless to not  bother about how your words affect people. It maybe your children, spouse, neighbour, colleague or even the person you meet on the streets. Let your words be encouraging, up lifting, helpful, full of grace and decency.

A mouth that speaks unwholesome words only indicates the heart condition. Dirty words come only from a heart that is not clean.

Ponder for a while on these words of wisdom:
The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.

He that hath a froward heart findeth no good: and he that hath a perverse tongue falleth into mischief.


For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:

So what are you saying?

Dirty jokes, curse words, obscenities, unkind words, abusive words or talking down words?
These should not be, decency and courtesy projected by all of us will affect our generations and the world. Whether we believe it or not, what we say or hear plays out in the choices we make.

So let’s begin a revolution, say no to dirty jokes! Let us stop this insanity going on. Let us help our children develop and maintain healthy, sound minds and healthy talks. Say no to obscene words! No to curse words!
What you hear matters, for what you hear your mind can meditate on, and what you meditate on you will practice. And if it is not good for hearing, it is not good for telling.

Let me end with these words:
Ephesians 4:29
(Contemporary English)
Stop all your dirty talk. Say the right thing at the right time and help others by what you say.

(International Standard Version)

Let no filthy talk be heard from your mouths, but only what is good for building up people and meeting the need of the moment. This way you will administer grace to those who hear you.

(King James)
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

Be wise, talk good!

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Kimberly
    Posted at 23:39h, 02 June

    This is a really interesting post. I often wonder if it is just me who feels that people are getting a little out of control with their words lately. I can tolerate the occasional potty mouth, but it appears that cursing and using foul language is becoming a social norm. Meaning… the worse you speak… the “cooler” you are. I don’t look down upon people in the manner that Kim above was speaking about as long as people know when to turn off the bad language. However, I do find myself becoming more and more uncomfortable speaking with people who integrate too much cursing into their vocabulary.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:22h, 03 June

      Hi Kimberly,
      I am glad you found it interesting. I slip sometimes my self but I work to get a clean vocabulary, it is my revolution to help the upcoming generation and myself too. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.
      Have a great week!

  • Kim @ Coffee Pot Chronicles
    Posted at 22:50h, 02 June

    I’d have to strongly disagree with you.

    I swear…frequently. So does my husband and many of my friends. Not one of us is a bad person or less intelligent because we choose to swear. It’s that kind of self-righteous attitude that angers me. People who stand atop a pedestal and condemn those of us who curse.

    When I swear, I am mindful of where I do it. You won’t find me dropping F bombs in a room full of 4 year olds or during an important meeting with name executives. In my own home the words may fly but out in public, I keep it as minimal as possible out of respect for others.

    If swearing is not for you, that’s okay. But to criticize others who do and say their hearts are unclean? Just a wee bit too judgmental if you ask me. I know so many people who are very kind, generous, loving, and have good hearts…and they swear. The words that come out of one’s mouth is not always the best judge of whether someone is good or bad. To think as such just screams narrow-minded. Just my two cents.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 17:18h, 03 June

      Hi Kim,
      I am truly sorry if you find this post offensive.I am not criticizing or judging anyone. And I am not saying that I am better than anyone, if you read some of my other posts you will see that.
      I am only saying it is not right, if you choose your words in front of children that is wise, but most others do not. And it is not healthy for us, our children and the world at large.

  • I Wonder Wye
    Posted at 18:06h, 02 June

    Hi there. You are my fellow commenter-blog buddy from the SITS site. The post I wrote that received the most comments this week is one on the SITS site but if you to my blog, it is just under the one running about the critter activity, and is called Micro-messaging — since it dovetails nicely to your post, I think you’d enjoy it. I agree it is so important to always speak with kindness, courtesy and respect. I wish I would every time I open my mouth…I love a quote credited to A. Lincoln: I never regret NOT speaking. (!) There are so many kids in church, of all places, who seem disrespectful of their elders. It surprises me…

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 19:20h, 02 June

      It is the society we live in, media, schools, friends and sometimes parents and adults they live with. But by constant praying, teaching and discipline we can change all that. Thanks for visiting and leaving your thoughts. Have a wisdom full weekend!

  • michelle @ this little light
    Posted at 17:56h, 02 June

    I so love this post, Ugochi! I agree wholeheartedly. It amazes me how low some parents seem to set the bar for their children, so I raise my son the way I believe my great-grandparents and grandparents raised their children: with a strong set of values, with a belief in right and wrong, and with the expectation that he work hard and do his best. AND watch his words.

    Your newest follower. 🙂

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 19:23h, 02 June

      We have no choice if we must raise a generation of well behaved children. Values must be set, instilled and supervised. thanks for the follow, have a wisdom full weekend!

  • Kelly Scott
    Posted at 14:40h, 02 June

    Your post inspired me to write something about WORDS. Thank you for the reminder and I’ll be watching my WORDS.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:05h, 02 June

      Hi Kelly,
      I am so glad you got inspired by this, going over to see it right away!
      Have a great weekend!

  • Cheryl of Cheryl's delights
    Posted at 18:06h, 02 June

    What a great incite to the big picture! thank you for sharing.


    • Ugochi
      Posted at 19:05h, 02 June

      Thanks Cheryl, I appreciate you, have a wisdom full weekend!

  • Janine LaTulippe
    Posted at 21:39h, 01 June

    My preacher told us a story of how he worked as a construction worker. He said all the men used lots of curse words, but he didn’t think it would affect him. He was driving home and got a flat tire and although he didn’t say a bad word, he thought it and it surprised him. Even though he hadn’t been saying those words with the other men, they influenced him. Very wise words here. Stopping by from the flock together blog hop. Hope to see you at True Aim. Thanks for sharing!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 22:02h, 01 June

      You see how powerful words can be? Thanks for visiting Janine.

  • Richly Middle Class
    Posted at 07:34h, 01 June

    What a beautiful article. Thank you for sharing that with us.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 07:56h, 01 June

      Thanks Cynthia, I appreciate your visit.

  • Denise
    Posted at 10:38h, 01 June

    Wonderful post! People should consider the importance of their words because they can either hurt and destroy, or heal and inspire. There are times when I wish I had been more careful when speaking, because words are so powerful and we should chose them with care

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 16:46h, 01 June

      Yes Denise, stopping to think before we speak is wisdom. Thanks for visiting.

  • Claudia
    Posted at 09:34h, 01 June

    Now if only I could get the young man on the bus yesterday to read this. I asked him politely to tone down his language in front of my three year old, and he just started calling me the f-word. (Credit to his friend who took my part and said he shouldn’t swear in front of little kids).

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 16:44h, 01 June

      See what I am saying? God help our children.

  • Janice's footsteps
    Posted at 04:56h, 01 June

    I absolutely needed this right now I have slipped here & there with bad words, I have been tested for sure so this will help me get back to not using those bad words when I get irritated at the stupid people around me ooops I shouldn’t call names either:)) Thanks for stopping by my blog & following I am following you as well because well we need believers to help each other to stay right in the right eyes, His eyes!!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 07:22h, 01 June

      Truth we slip here and there, but thank God for His grace and mercy. And we do need other believers in our lives, we cannot go this journey alone. Thanks a lot for the visit and follow, grace and peace!

  • kendra
    Posted at 22:30h, 31 May

    Absolutely right! Too bad I fail in that area a lot 🙁

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 07:19h, 01 June

      Thank God for His mercy, and grace Kendra. He can help us deal with all our short comings. Thanks for the visit

  • ♥ Shar
    Posted at 20:51h, 31 May

    Great post! Have you thought of writing a book centered towards spirituality!?

    Keep writing!!

    xo -Shar

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 20:54h, 31 May

      Thanks Shar,
      I have some on the line, trusting God for the finish. I really appreciate your visit.
      Have a great evening1

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 19:27h, 31 May

    Great work! Keep on keeping on!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 20:52h, 31 May

      Thanks a lot! I appreciate your visit.