AWAY WITH TIME WASTERS! - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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avoid time wastersToday  I want to talk about time wasters. You know them don’t you?

For the guy, he just hangs around you, takes you on dates, and even holds your hands, he never talks about where the relationship is headed, yet he lays serious claims on you. He will not want to see you talk to another guy, puts a tab on you and monitors you every second.
And you, (the lady) are afraid to ask him because, what if he thinks you are desperate for marriage? What if he just simply disappears or…?
And for ladies, they keep the guys in suspense, not giving them a definite go ahead or a definite no -no. Trying to keep them but not committing to anything.  She wants to hang around him all the time, even though she has refused to tell him whether or not she is ready for keeps.
Time wasters: you get stuck with them if you are not careful, the relationship is not progressing beyond
where and what it is.  This kind of relationship is not healthy at all; it can hinder you from the real person.
I know it is not good to rush things but I also know there shouldn’t be any stalling; you should at some point get clear on what the relationship is about and where it is headed.  You should be able to talk about your relationship instead of assuming things.

Hanging in this kind of “uncertain” relationship makes people think you are already “with” someone, so the people who might have approached you or you approach might not want to have anything to do with you.

Please try not to assume anything, especially if you are ready for marriage, after the first few dates you should ask to know what the guy wants from you if he is not saying.
And you as a man should not keep any lady in the dark, define the relationship, even if the relationship ends up not working out like you planned. This is what a person of integrity should do.
Most times I find that men do not want to define a relationship because according to them –they are not sure if they want the lady for keeps. But the truth is that they have so many other ladies they are “sampling”, and I find this a very insincere thing to do.
On another hand, some ladies keep stalling a guy who might have even made clear his intentions, they say they are thinking about it, some even say they are praying when they are not. They know they do not want the man but because of some benefits they are enjoying, or just so they can tell their friends they are in a relationship, they just keep stalling.
This is not nice at all, it is good to be open from the beginning, define the relationship from the beginning and don’t assume anything.
Do not allow any time waster in your life. No matter how long and how attached to this person you might think you have become, severing the relationship will clear the way for you to meet the right person.
If you ask once and ask twice and there is no clear response and months and even years have come and gone, I believe you should move on and make room for the right person.
I know a lot of people who have hung on to such time wasters for so long only for them to discover that that was all they were: Time Wasters!
So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.
Ephesians -5:16b  
Redeeming the time…
Your time is of essence, you cannot afford to waste it!Copyright© Teshuva 2012

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Timothy Afolabi
    Posted at 15:36h, 14 January

    This is a resourceful write up. Thanks and God bless!

  • Jean
    Posted at 09:27h, 21 May

    Oh girl!!! I have had a few experiences with time wasters!! You are so right on about relationships like that being futile and never progressing!! Better to move on and use the time God gave us wisely!!

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    • Ugochi
      Posted at 10:47h, 21 May

      Yes Jean,
      We must use our time wisely, we will be held responsible.
      Thanks again for stopping by,I always appreciate your visits and comments.
      God bless you!

  • Janine LaTulippe
    Posted at 04:44h, 21 May

    So true, I tried not to be in a relationship that I thought wasn’t going toward the goal that dating is supposed to bring about. Sometimes it is hard to let someone go if you really like them, but you have to remember that time is not yours to waste, but a gift entrusted to you to glorify your creator. Thanks for sharing! New follower!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 10:42h, 21 May

      Truth Janine,
      It can be difficult to let go, but like you said, time is a gift we all must account for.
      Thanks for stopping by and following.
      God’s grace!

  • Debbie Crawford
    Posted at 13:02h, 20 May

    There are so many time wasters and it is good to look at all of our relationships with others and see if there are any other time wasters besides those relationships that involve men.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 15:05h, 20 May

      Truth Debbie,
      Time wasters can be found in every kind of relationship. Thanks for visiting, I appreciate you.
      God bless.

  • Denise
    Posted at 11:18h, 20 May

    Hi Ugochi,

    It’s been several years since I was single, but you make some really good points. Our time is precious and we can’t afford to waste it! Our future is hoped for, but the present moment is when we are called to trust Him with each opportunity and person He places in our lives.

    Great post; thanks for visiting me!
    Blessings and hugs,

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 11:59h, 20 May

      Thanks Denise,
      You are right we cannot afford to waste precious time.
      I appreciate your visit and comment.

  • Lauren Bird
    Posted at 05:49h, 20 May

    Oh time wasters- such a pain! I’m a new follower to your fun blog from the Aloha Blog Hop!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 07:30h, 20 May

      They are such a pain Lauren!
      Thanks for the follow.

  • Casey K
    Posted at 04:24h, 20 May

    What a wonderful post!

    THank you for stopping by my blog today. I am now following you through GFC, linky, and network blogs! I hope you have a blessed Sunday

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 07:29h, 20 May

      Thanks Casey,
      I am glad you found it wonderful. Thanks for stopping by and following.

  • agman
    Posted at 22:20h, 19 May

    Good post and Ephesians, is so true, Time is the one thing we can’t waste, like our life, we never get it back

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 07:08h, 20 May

      Yes Agman, we never get it back. I appreciate your visit and comment.
      God bless you.

  • The Lovely One
    Posted at 21:36h, 19 May

    I think we’ve all been with a time waster at some point! And most women stay with the guy even longer because they don’t want to admit that their time has been wasted! Great post!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 07:01h, 20 May

      I agree with you, most ladies want to hang on to what will not be.
      Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.