I know the things about me that I would not like in another person. I do not dislike myself , I just do not enjoy some habits I have formed and I am working hard to change them.

While you pray for and wait for your spouse, one way to get yourself ready, to prepare yourself for the union of marriage is to develop good character.
Ask yourself, “Would I marry me?”

If you answer this question in truth, you will discover that there are some habits, character and attitudes that can bring hindrance to a blissful marriage.  This is the time to work on them.

A lot of times we carry on with our ways not minding how it affects the people in our lives. What are those things that we do, those things our friends, parents, colleagues, siblings, neighbours have been complaining about? Your spouse may not like them too.
If you were put in front of you and asked to marry “that person”, would you?

While you wait for your spouse, make yourself marriageable; work on yourself so much that when you get married, you will be a blessing indeed to your spouse.
Work on being a solution not a problem to your spouse, an asset not a liability, a blessing not a curse

Make a list of the negative habits or character that you wish to get rid of, pray and ask for grace to overcome them and deliberately begin to work on doing away with them.

I made a little maybe- list of some of those negative habits, read it and see if any is still holding you down:

Lack of integrity-How true are you to your words, do you keep your promises to people?

Criticism– Do you criticize and condemn everything and everyone?

Lying– Do you lie to anyone/everyone and on anything/everything?

Anger-Do you get angry about almost everything, are you highly irritable?

Selfishness– Do you find it difficult to share, do you always put you first and everyone else after?

Unforgiving – Do you always find it difficult to forgive a hurt?

The list might not end here for you and it might not be all-inclusive, but if you know those things you will not like your spouse to do to you, then grow your character so you will not doing them to your spouse either.

Luke 6:31
And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.

Work at being the best spouse ever and you will attract the best spouse ever!

Copyright© Ugochi Oritsejolomisan 2012

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan a Christian, a minister of the gospel, an author, a speaker and a writer. Her book "To Kiss Or Not To Kiss." Is a favourite of its readers. She writes to inspire you for a better life in God. She is wife to Benson, mother of Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.


  1. I would definitely not marry me!
    There are many things I don’t appreciate about me (although my beloved husband says I’m way too hard on myself) and I’ve been trying for my whole life to change.
    But since with age I get more high maintenance I also ask more from myself so it gets harder to fix the “boo boo” 🙂


    1. I understand Petro, I think I get too hard on myself too. But I’m working on getting better.
      Thanks for stopping by.

  2. wow, the man in the mirror, can i marry me, This most difficult thing to do is to critize ourselves, why its easy to critize others. This post certainly got me thinking

    1. An important question that deserves honest answers from those who desire bliss in their marriages. Thanks for visiting.
      God’s grace and speed!

  3. lol, i know my husband is a saint for marrying me 🙂 following from monday mingle.

    1. Hi Meredith,
      We all have our faults, we just need to work on them.
      Thanks for stopping by and following.
      God’s grace!

  4. I love this post. Simply beautiful. Would I marry myself … Tho I am very thoughtful, sweet, kind and not selfish … sometimes I can be annoying especially when I am tired … Thanks for inspiring me to look at myself more …

    Just added myself to your circle. Love it!

    1. I am glad you find it inspiring.
      Thanks for stopping by and joining too, I appreciate you!
      God bless you!

  5. Oh this is so true! I really don’t think I would “marry me” to be really honest. There were many things I tried to mentally prepare for when I was considering marriage, but this was not one of them. I see habits pop up that I wish were gone and I’m sure hubby wishes that too 🙂

    1. It’s the same for most of us Kendra. But thank God it’s never too late to start working.
      I truly appreciate your stopping by.

      God’s grace and speed!

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