After we had a meal few weeks ago my husband went to the kitchen to help me do the dishes. I was very grateful as I was quite tired and in need of that help. I decided to just relax right there on the dining table and enjoy a bit of a holiday from dish washing. Our two elder sons were in the kitchen to assist him and they were having quite some fun working with dad.
My husband called from the kitchen after a while, to say that he found a lot of dirt hidden under a warmer lid and he was going to take the lid apart, clean it up, and couple it back.
I didn’t want to get into the kitchen because I was afraid I would get tempted to join in the work. So I just muttered a “go ahead” from the dining without giving a careful thought to what He said. He was apparently excited that he had discovered and was removing dirt for me, perhaps because he thought I was a meticulous person and would appreciate this discovery and removal.
A couple of moments later, I walked into the kitchen to find him trying to couple the “destroyed” lid back, to no avail. After he had tried for a while and it would not come back together, he tendered some apologies and left it.
I could not, it was apparent that a clip or “tooth” that was meant to hold it together had been broken. I sighed and started speaking to myself. I told myself to see that he meant no harm and was only trying to help. Before I walked out of the kitchen I made sure I had a “not angry” look on my face. And as I write, he didn’t know I felt the way I did (I think), but he would get to know when he reads this. Thank God I was able to deal with it and appreciate his help instead of flying off the handle.
In everything be thankful, because this is God’s will for you in the Messiah Jesus.
Calm your anger and abandon wrath. Don’t be angry—it only leads to evil.
For human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
A person’s discretion makes him slow to anger, and it is to his credit that he ignores an offence.
I can imagine how it would have made him feel if to think I didn’t appreciate his helping out with the dishes. It may have even resulted to something ugly (see Psalm 37 above) if I had not dealt with the pain and anger. After all he was only trying to help, even though it was an “ EXTREME HELP!”
Have you ever had to deal with any “extreme help” situation with your spouse or anybody? How did you handle it?