LIES AND MARRIAGE - Ugochi Oritsejolomisan
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My interaction with some single friends and acquaintances has revealed that there are lots of wrong notion that some people have about marriage. People desire to get married for the wrong reasons, or let me be fair to say mostly wrong reasons. Let me list some of these thoughts or expectations, or notions.
Marriage is an escape from my parents or guardians to my independence.
If you get married to find freedom, then you might be disappointed, because real marriage does not allow for independence from one another. There is responsibility and accountability in marriage, so if you are one who does not like to be accountable or responsible, marriage is not an escape, or you will encounter serious problems too.
Marriage will meet all my emotional needs.
Trust me, this is so not true, I speak by personal and shared experiences. If you do not handle your emotional needs now and know how to deal with them you will be disappointed because the other person has his/hers to deal with and does not need you to depend completely on him/her for emotional satisfaction.
I want to get married so that I will not have to be sleeping around anymore.  
I am afraid this too cannot be taken as true. If you do not deal with sexual indiscipline now, it will still be an issue even after marriage. What happens when your spouse is not there, maybe out of town and you suddenly feel the need? If you are still undisciplined, then you would probably find “another way” to satisfy your urges.
Marriage will give me more access to cash.
Then you go get yourself a rich guy or babe, greed cannot be satisfied no matter how much is thrown at it. Learn to be content with what you have, if you marry for money and the money is no longer there, you would then not have any reason to stay married.
The Mr. or Mrs. title will earn me some respect, people will no 
longer talk to me anyhow.
Not true too! You earn respect from who you are not from a title. So behave yourself respectably now and earn respect for yourself.
Treat others with respect too, for you will get what you give.
If you are single and hope to be happily married one day, then rid
your mind and thoughts of these and some other myths about marriage that I might not have mentioned.
Marry to be a blessing to someone and not for someone to meet all your needs. Prepare yourself in every way you can so that when he/she meets you, he/she will consider you a valuable gift.
Wisdom is needed to enjoy marriage, wisdom means applying true information and experiences to your life. Be smart; prepare to enjoy bliss in your marriage!
Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:
Prepare your work outside; get everything ready for yourself in the field, and after that build your house.
Wishing you a happy married life!!!
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a mentor, encourager and influencer. She writes to inspire you to live a full life. Ugochi lives in Canada with her husband Benson and their children; Joshua, Joseph and Josiah.

  • Kendra @ A Proverbs 31 Wife
    Posted at 23:05h, 26 May

    So true, I have often felt as though I married to escape a bad situation and my immaturity created another. However God does all things for a purpose and I do believe that Hubby and I were meant for each other. I just wish like you said I had began my marriage to be a blessing instead of learning that later on.
    ~Hope your weekend is awesome!

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 10:58h, 27 May

      God causes all things to work out for our good, if we love Him Kendra. Thanks for stopping by.

  • Becca Acker
    Posted at 20:20h, 26 May

    Great post! Definitely truths we need to be reminded of. I like how you put it, “Marry to be a blessing to someone and not for someone to meet all your needs.”

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 10:54h, 27 May

      Thanks Becca for stopping by,and leaving the encouragement.

  • Sarah Fontenot
    Posted at 22:23h, 26 May

    What a beautiful post. I hope this post reaches many, many people who may be believing these lies who need to know the truth.

    • Ugochi
      Posted at 10:55h, 27 May

      I pray so too! Thanks for stopping by Sarah!