29 Apr HE WANTS TO DIE!
It was early evening, between five and six, when His call came through; he said he had been asked to see us by a family friend in another state who he had talked with him. He said he needed to talk to my husband and I about something important. I asked if it could wait till the following morning, he said it could but would really want to see us right away. I agreed when he said he’d be with us in a jiffy and I waited for about fifteen minutes before he arrived.
When he walked in I immediately knew it wasn’t going to be a brief discussion as I had hoped. He was looking worn and weak from life’s troubles. We welcomed him and gave him a seat as I turned to face him.
He took a breath and started…
He was born out of wedlock, pampered by grandma, uncles and aunties, got all the attention he needed and wanted, and then flip! He joined in with the wrong crowd, insisted on having his way, messed up his life big time, and caught a life threatening disease, had a child outside wedlock, lost the mother of his baby… (Compressed story!)
Now everyone has given up on him, won’t see him, talk to him or lend a hand. He admits he has disappointed his family by his attitude and is willing to make a change but they won’t believe him. He has a dream, something he wants to do in order to be able to have the means to better his life, but he knows no one to turn to for help, even though he has taken the true steps toward change, his family won’t trust him. So now, hopeless, HE WANTS TO DIE!
Don’t judge him, don’t criticize him, you are not in his shoes, you don’t know where and how it hurts (except you’ve been there before). He can’t see beyond his predicaments, he does not know any better.
· Help him
· Encourage/ Talk with him
· Pray for him
Suicidal thoughts, tendencies and attempts are only results of deeper issues of hopelessness. He sees no point to his life, has no reasons for wanting to live, does not see, know or believe it can get better for him. So do not blame him, if he knew any better he would think differently.
Please understand, I do not subscribe in any way to suicide, I only seek to help “victims” of hopelessness find hope, a hope that there is light after the tunnel, that no matter how dark or long the night seems, the morning will must always come. That even if it looks like everyone has given up on them there is One who has not and will not.
Hopelessness is a tool of the enemy to destroy lives; he shows you bleak and blank for your future, he shows you helplessness and insignificance. He shows you how irrelevant your life is and how unworthy you are to live. Lies! All a pack, bunch of lies!
Hopelessness is a tool of the enemy to destroy lives;
Believe me, there is HOPE for you, there is reason to go on living, things can turn around for you, no matter how far you’ve gone off the deep end, you can come back up again.
How? You ask
No matter how bad your situation may look, there is someone whose situation is worse, if you look and listen well enough you will see and hear.
There is someone who loves you like no other and wants to help you, he promised to always be with you, if you would trustingly follow Him. And what’s more, He has the limitless ability to change your situation or help you through it.
He loves you profoundly…For God so loved the world: that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
And He calls you to…Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
You can find rest in the midst of all the chaos you face, He can make something beautiful out of your seemingly worthless life.. I am a witness!
The reason I can say this is I have had rough times too, like they say “I’ve been there and done that!”
With three rape attempts that left me traumatised, loads of rejections, deceived by a pimp, left helpless and abandoned, mocked at and abused several betrayals by people I loved and trusted…the list is endless, yet God picked me as I lifted my arms to Him. He is waiting to pick you up too; you are of tremendous value to Him and the world.
You don’t have to die!
UgochiPosted at 16:03h, 02 May
Thanks for your concern and helpful scriptures. And it is not long, it is a blessing. Thanks again!
God’s grace and speed sister!
Terri RogersPosted at 15:57h, 02 May
WOW! I totally understand this person. While our stories arent the same we still both have stories. The one thing that the Holy Spirit has been reminding me is that I am accepted in the Beloved. I would tell your friend that Ephesians 1:6 says that we are accepted because of the finished work that Jesus did on the cross. He is not a prisoner of his past decisions or the decisions that were made on his behalf and because of the blood at the foot of the cross that Mercy has shut the door to what he deserved, Grace covers him and Gods Favor goes before him. Psalm 32:5 says that he will forgive us the guilt of our sin because the sin itself was already covered on the cross.
Sorry for the long comment but I’ve been walking through this lately and it just sparked something in me. I hope the best for you and your friend.
UgochiPosted at 11:38h, 02 May
So true Viviene, thanks for stopping by.
vivienePosted at 23:49h, 01 May
Hopelessness is a tool of the enemy to destroy lives
That is so true…
TimPosted at 23:45h, 30 April
….. When bitten by the serpents of hopelessness and afflicted by the venom of circumstances, like the children of Israel in the wilderness we must look unto the author and finisher of our faith. We might have to brew a cup of hope in our hearts, on the tiny flame of His word left, stirring gently and constantly with promises He over time has kept and will continue to keep.
Keep Hope Alive, He still on the throne
agmanPosted at 15:47h, 30 April
I’m sure your words helped your friend in there time of need and I commend you for being able to walk the path you have chosen with a good heart. be well
UgochiPosted at 15:53h, 30 April
Thanks Agman, I believe he will do well.
UgochiPosted at 13:20h, 30 April
Hi LagosMums, I like the phrase,”don’t make a permanent decision to a temporary problem” I’m glad to know you were touched, it encourages me, thanks for stopping by.
UgochiPosted at 13:20h, 30 April
Okay Claudia, I will pray for your friend using these verses of scriptures, Psalm 38:22, Matthew 17:15a and Psalm 108:6, calling on God for mercy on his/her behalf. God is faithful to His word, he will do it. Let me know if there’s more, I’ll be glad to join you in faith.
LagosMumsPosted at 09:03h, 30 April
This post really touched me. We are all victims of helplessness (from lack of faith) at some point in our lives, but everything is for a season. A message i was blessed to hear and learn from recently is not to make a permanent decision to a temporary problem.
ClaudiaPosted at 08:59h, 30 April
I’d appreciate your prayers for a friend of mine who posted a scary facebook post. I think it was more a cry for help than the more serious suicide thoughts, but he does have a lot of stress and anxiety and needs help and prayer.
Kate HeidelbergerPosted at 23:10h, 29 April
Hi Ugochi, Its Kate here from RichlyMiddleClass.com, wow, you brought tears to my eyes. I am a woman of faith and I have seen many dark days in my past. But prayer and praise is what gets me through, I am honored to be able to take part in your blog, I commend you for spreading The Word as you do. We do it all for His Glory Ugochi, you go girly! I’ll be back soon (c:
UgochiPosted at 23:18h, 29 April
Thanks Kate, I am encouraged. The things He brings us through… He deserves our praise! Thanks again for stopping by.