Do you know any negative person? That one who spends more than his/her time with you reeling out complaints? How do you handle one or more person(s) who almost always complains to you about something or everything? I know there must be at least one person you know who hardly has anything positive to say about anything or anyone.
- One who constantly criticizes government.
- A colleague who always has nothing nice to say about your organization or employer.
- A family member who continually runs down another family member.
- A friend who sees only the negative in and about someone.
- A sibling who won’t stops complaining about family.
- A church member who never ceases to complain about the church or another member.
- A child who never sees or says anything nice about others.
- Someone in your life who finds fault in all you say and do.
I know you, my reader have at one time or another encountered such a person. Now how do you handle such a person? Especially after you have tried severally and so hard to help the person see from a different perspective and change his/her line of thoughts?
First, you must understand that many times, such people usually have loads of issues they are dealing with:
- Childhood problems.
- Inferiority complex.
- Superiority complex.
- Jealousy or Envy.
Some of them:
- See people or things through who they are.
- Might be crying out for help.
We [earnestly] urge you, believers, admonish those who are out of line [the undisciplined, the unruly, the disorderly], encourage the timid [who lack spiritual courage], help the [spiritually] weak, be very patient with everyone [always controlling your temper]. 1 Thessalonians 5:14 AMP
So when you have that person who cannot see or talk about any good in others in your life, you must trust God for patience, especially if they are close people.
- Take time to point them to the good whenever they mention that bad.
- Try to make them see from another perspective.
- Help them learn healthy thoughts and comments from you.
As I write this I chuckle at myself because I know how hard it can be; trying to convince a negative person into positive thinking.
Some people are bent on holding on to their negativity, and no matter how much you talk to them or show them the other side of things, they will remain with their train of thoughts.
However, some of these people may be crying for help beneath all that negativity, if you try and reach out, you might be able to help them deal with the underlying reason for their negative attitude.
You do not have to respond to them, that way you do not engage them and expose yourself to more of their negativity.
Some are not happy with who they are or what they are, they are as negative about themselves as they are about things or people.
At times however, you might have to completely avoid negative people in order to save yourself from the bug of negativity.
This is because if you hang around negative people long and carelessly enough, they might rub their negativity off on you.
He who walks [as a companion] with wise men will be wise, but the companions of [conceited, dull-witted] fools [are fools themselves and] will experience harm. Proverbs 13:20 AMP
You can pray earnestly for this person and ask that God will intervene and change his/her heart. While you keep a healthy distance, especially if you have noticed negative effects on you.
I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, [and] giving of thanks, be made for all men; 1 Timothy 2:1 AMP
Confess [your] faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. James 5:17 AMP
Have you figured out this person in your life?
What are you doing to help?
Have you had to resort to avoidance?
Copyright© Teshuva 2016