Marriage And Pornography.

Marriage And Pornography.

She couldn’t handle it any more she said, she had borne it for too long, the girls and in her home, plus the beatings. I was in tears my self as she sobbed from across the table.  She had “caught” her husband with girls in their home committing the act as they watched it on video. At first he apologized but subsequently he grew hard and hit her instead any time she questioned his infidelity.

The Mistake.
When asked why they had pornographic videos at home she said her husband bought them to “teach” them sex since they were both novices in the area being virgins. She became uncomfortable with them at some point and expressed her disapproval; he dismissed it in anger. Now it has become an addiction for him. Soon she could no longer satisfy him and he resorted to having girls from outside who would do it like they did it in the video… and slowly their marriage was being destroyed.

A man told of how his wife claimed he was too old and lacked the energy she required for satisfaction in bed, she got the sex videos and brought in younger men who still had the energy to meet up with the variety as provided by the pornographic videos she had been watching. That was how the beginning of the end of her marriage began.

Another woman introduced porn to her husband for “learning” and “arousal” since he hardly touched her. He got addicted and couldn’t get enough from her, and then he turned to others…

All three marriages are no more…

The Claim.
Some husbands/wives claim they need to watch pornography in order to add a zing to their sex lives. They claim they do not want to bore their spouses so they indulge in pornography.

You do not need pornography to teach you sex, just like you do not need to teach a child to drink from her mother’s breast. Sex comes naturally, God is perfect in His creation.

There is an excitement that builds up when you learn how to excite each other by yourselves and as you grow, you get better in it; the discovery of how to excite each other in your matrimonial bed is a sheer adventurous pleasure.

It Is A Destructive Spirit.
Pornography is a spirit, the spirit of lust that has no good in mind for you. When you open yourself to pornography you open yourself to strangers and invaders who only seek you and your marriage’s destruction.

Without realising it most men and women become discontent with their spouses and begin to wish they could get it from the people on the screen or someone who could do it like them.

Pornography is demonic and destructive, no one; single or married has any reason to engage in it. Like any other sin, it is something we all must run from.

Flee from sexual immorality… 1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV

In case you are already addicted you can overcome it.
First is to confess to God and repent in prayer.
Feed on God’s word like never before, God’s word gives strength to overcome.
Throw out all pornographic materials you have.
Talk to your spouse if he/she is involved, and agree on the need to stop.
Remove yourself from anything and everything that encourages you in it.
Talk to your pastor for counsel.
Make yourself accountable to your pastor, spouse, friends…
Join a support group.

For this is the will of God, that you should be consecrated (separated and set apart for pure and holy living): that you should abstain and shrink from all sexual vice. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 AMP

What are your thoughts on Pornography?
Do you know anyone who lost his or her homes as a result of porn?
Do you know any that was able to deal with it and get restored? 

Copyright© 2014 Teshuva
Update from 2013

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, She is a minister of the gospel, an author, a speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God!

6 Comments

  1. You don’t realize the great damage this pornography in marriage has caused. It is a silent killer which is hardly spoken on. Thanks and God bless you. Please do us the favour of speaking on this in respect to teenagers and even children! Purchase of phones for children has opened a new wave for atrocities amongst children

    1. I agree with you Emma. The internet has brought with it so many downsides. Will write on it as God gives me grace.
      Have a super blessed day!

  2. You show courage in touching on this touchy subject. I do not know anyone personally who has lost their marriage due to pornography but I imagine there are more than I realize. This is not a subject that is even talked about but must be addressed as we expose our children to more and more things that the have no business learning about. I appreciate you and thank you for speaking about pornography.

    1. All praise to God! I pray that marriages will be delivered via this.
      Many thanks Mary, do have a super blessed day!
      Love

  3. It truly is a vice that gets a vice-like grip on our hearts when we allow ourselves to view it over and over. I know that there are secular studies that show that our brains are rewired in a negative way when we view pornography, Ugochi. It creates an unquenchable desire that not even pushing the envelope each time can satisfy. I’m so glad that you are touching upon this plague on our culture. It’s time to wake up to the havoc it is reeking on sex relationships and marriages. Thanks for touching on this controversial but extremely important topic.

    1. Wow! Even science knows it is wrong!
      Thanks for coming by Beth!
      Have a super blessed day!
      Love

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