Changing The Truth About Your Marriage.

Changing The Truth About Your Marriage.

Knowing the truth about your marriage can be a very strong key to unlocking the bliss that may have been absent or hindered in your marriage. There is a truth about your marriage that may not be a truth about mine.

Truth can be relative or absolute.
Relative truth deals more with preferences, customs, traditions, attitude, perspective, belief systems and more.

Examples of relative truth are;

  • Chocolate is the best food
  • It is disrespectful not to bow in greeting to an elder
  • You must wait for your elder one to get married before you do
  • It is offensive to wear your shoes into someone’s house

On the other hand absolute truth is whatever is always valid, regardless of parameters or context.

Examples of absolute truth are;

  • The sky is up
  • The sun rises in the morning
  • Rain falls from the sky
  • Blood flows in all living human beings

Some truths in some marriages that are not true in Some Others.

1.  Marriage cannot be quarrel free.
This may be true for some marriages, because pride, ego and all those negative emotions are great features in the couple. When husband and wife always insist on being right or having the last word, then THAT marriage cannot be quarrel free.
But some marriages are quarrel free because they have chosen to follow God’s word and His Spirit in their thoughts, words and actions towards their spouse and their marriage. They have put their flesh under and have decided to dialogue with the mind to understand and discuss instead of quarrel.

2. You should not trust your spouse with your finances.
This is a relative truth as well. Some people are married to someone who lacks financial integrity so they always hide away their monies from their spouses. Some others may be greedy and whether or not their spouses are sincere, they want to keep what they have to themselves only.
In some other marriages couples would not have issues letting their spouses in on all that they have. This is because they both have their foundation in Christ, they believe in God and allow the fruits of The Holy Spirit to bud and blossom in them.

3. You should not expose yourself completely to your spouse.
Some people hold themselves back from their spouses so that they do not take them for granted. They do not want to let them see their weaknesses because they would mock them, criticize them or insult them because of their weaknesses. If this is happening in your marriage, then you should not hold it as a truth in all marriages.
Some couples know every detail of their spouses, both strengths and weakness. They know that because God has joined them to become one, part of the becoming is being a source of strength in their spouses’ areas of weakness. They know God can through them cover up their spouses weakness, while helping them to grow in strength in those areas.

I must admit that there are many other relative truths that a lot of people have taken as absolute and therefore believe that have to live with and endure because they can do nothing about them.

The Difference Maker.
There is a difference maker that changes your truth from negative and sad to positive and joy full. This difference maker is the reason your marriage’s truths are different from some other marriages’ truth.

…I came so they can have real and eternal life, more and better life than they ever dreamed of. John 10:10b MSG

For I know what plans I have in mind for you,’ says Adonai,‘plans for well-being, not for bad things; so that you can have hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 CJB

When Jesus is welcomed into a marriage, ABSOLUTE truths are established. Truths that cannot change even when all things change. Truths that have stood the test of time and circumstances, truths that will remain even when everything else passes away.

When Jesus is welcomed into your heart and home, He changes everything from;

  • Bad to good
  • Good to better
  • Better to best
  • Best to…

I am doing something new; it’s springing up — can’t you see it? I am making a road in the desert, rivers in the wasteland. Isaiah 43:19 CJB

So you can change the truths you have considered absolute, those things you are not enjoying in your marriage but think nothing can be done about. Or those truths you have tried to change on your own but never make a head way, by simply allowing The Difference Maker to come in and do that which only He can do.

Let Jesus in, ask Him into your heart, roll your marriage over to Him and walk with Him as He works through you to change those truths to His Truth, the Truth He has promised in His word.

Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. [I will ease and relieve and refresh your souls.] Matthew 11:28 AMP

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17

With all your heart you must trust the Lord and not your own judgment. Always let him lead you, and he will clear the road for you to follow. Proverbs 3:5-6 CEV

Will you make up your mind to change the truths about your marriage?
Will you give The Difference Maker charge over your marriage?

Copyright© Teshuva 2015

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, She is a minister of the gospel, an author, a speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God!

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  1. Such wonderful truths here, sweet friend. I am trying to get caught up on my reading, and I still have one more post of yours to read. I always find such precious encouragement and truth here. Thank you for not compromising and for standing firm for God’s holiness. And thank you for checking on me via email. That truly meant so much me! God bless you, your marriage, and your family. 🙂

  2. We all need to remember that the Difference Maker can change our marriages in such powerful and important ways! So often we try to do this “heavy lifting” ourselves, Ugochi. I’m so glad that you are pointing us to the One and Only Lord who can make the difference in turning our marriages around! Thanks for your heart and passion for marriage, my friend. I’m always inspired by your words in this place. 🙂

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