I heard these kinds of statements in recent times and it really got me thinking…
Yes, you can live, survive and even thrive without your spouse.
Yes, you can enjoy peace when you are by yourself since you don not have to bother your head about another person.
When there are constant quarrels, misunderstandings, fights, anger and all those emotional and physical upheavals it can be quite difficult and painful to stay a relationship and marriage.
But giving up, throwing in the towel, and running out of the marriage is not the best option or solution to the problem.
God Sees You As One.
And the two shall become one flesh, so that they are no longer two, but one flesh. Mark 10:8 AMP
God sees you as one flesh. Imagine someone pulling your arm, or feet, or nose or any other part of your body to yank it off from the rest of your body. How excruciating would that be?
Same thing applies in marriage. When a couple seeks to pull away from each other because they are tired and weary from working at their marriage and making the right and necessary adjustments to make their marriage work, they inflict pain on their marriage; spirit, soul and body.
Lies Of The Devil.
The enemy sells lies to couples many times, telling them:
They do not need each other
They would enjoy so much liberty with out each other
Life would be more peaceful without their spouse
They have all they need to look after themselves
They’d be better off without each other
They don’t need to stay married…
Again I must state that I do not subscribe to staying married if it means death…
But a couple chickening out of a marriage because they simply got tired of working as hard it takes, refusing to depend solely on God’s word, instructions and help is not God pleasing at all.
It Will Work If You Work It With Persistence.
Every good thing requires work, hard work. Every building that stands has taken some level of hard work to stay erected and beautiful.
Marriage is a good thing. It cannot start, stay and survive if work is not put into it; sometimes it takes work, sometimes really hard work and at other times lingering very hard work. But in the end, we have guaranteed victory if we refuse to stop working at it, if we refuse to entertain the suggestions of the enemy, if we refuse to consider any other option but to stay and work hard at it.
But you, take courage! Do not let your hands be weak, for your work shall be rewarded. 2 Chronicles 15:7 ESV
Infidelity is a permission Jesus gave in Matthew 5:32 but there is a higher law and command He has also given; that of love and forgiveness.
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth: 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love, forgiveness and acceptance have cured many hearts, homes and marriages of infidelity. I know it is not as easy as it reads, but it is possible and I believe better than the pain of yanking off the body parts…
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If you ask a sincere person who has made a rash decision to end a marriage, they will tell you that looking back they would have done things differently.
Remember that yanking any part of you body off cannot happen without PAIN, and that is what couples inflict on themselves, breaking God’s heart when you opt out of your marriage that God pronounced and sees as ONE.
- Have you ever thought of bliss without your spouse?
- Do you play with the thought of life back as a single person?
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