Adultery…Not Falling Again.

Adultery…Not Falling Again.

adulteryI have written a couple of series on adultery and I am trusting that someone has had a definite encounter with grace reading them. I know that some believers who fall into adultery did not set out to do so, they probably thought they were too strong and/or let down their guards. But after someone commits adultery, is remorseful, confesses, and asks for forgiveness, and is forgiven.

I want to by The Spirit of God offer some action points that can be taken to avoid falling again. I am trusting that this will be the last article on this adultery series, but if I am lead otherwise I will not hesitate to put it up.

So here they are:

1. Make Up Your Mind.
If you are still playing with lust, if you still secretly desire a fling now and then, if you occasionally play with adultery in your heart, then you will fall for it.
But if you make up your mind to fight and win over the demon of lust and adultery, if you totally and sincerely desire to live holy and stay faithful to your spouse, if you submit your thoughts, desires, and emotions to God and ask Him for grace to win, then you will.

But Daniel made up his mind that he would not defile himself … Daniel 1:8 NET

2. Cut off.
As much as is within your power and beyond, cut off from this person or persons you committed the act with. There is something about sexual sin, or any other sin for that matter, if drastic steps are not taken with the help of The Holy Spirt, there are strong pulls towards that particular sin again and again.

Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt… 1 Corinthians 15:33

3. Stay Accountable.
Commit yourself to an accountability team. Your pastor, a godly friend or godly friends and spouse should be or form form part of the people you can submit to accountably speaking.
I heard about a man who had to go for an official duty with a female colleague and about half way through the journey the lady started making advances at him. He stopped to make a phone call to His pastor while she listened, and told him his ordeal, his pastor counselled him on what to do and that was how he escaped that snare.
Communicating to your spouse about all your challenges in this regard will help, especially if you submit to his or her help. When men make passes at me, I always tell my husband about it and many times he has to pick my phones when they call and that helps to keep them off. Many times I give out my numbers because these men hide behind the need for help, but they end up asking for more than the discussed help.

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens the wits of another. Proverbs 27:17 GW

4. Standing Strong With God in His Word.
You gain strength to have dominion over sin as you deliberately feed on God’s word. God’s word is food for your spirit, giving you spiritual nutrition and energy to fight temptations and sin.

This Book of the Law shall not depart out of your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, that you may observe and do according to all that is written in it. For then you shall make your way prosperous, and then you shall deal wisely and have good success. Joshua 1:8 AMP

Your word have I laid up in my heart, that I might not sin against You. Psalm 119:11 AMP

5. Continuous Prayers.
In prayer grace and strength is released to you for dealing with the flesh and sin. Especially when you pray God’s word that you have been meditating on concerning dealing with the flesh and the sin of adultery.

All of you must keep awake (give strict attention, be cautious and active) and watch and pray, that you may not come into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak. Matthew 26:41 AMP

The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working]. James 5:16b AMP

6. Fellowship With The Holy Spirit.
Spending time with The Holy Spirit, asking for His continual in filling and help is very important. The Holy Spirit is the believer’s helper and without Him you cannot overcome adultery or any other sin.

But I say, walk and live [habitually] in the [Holy] Spirit [responsive to and controlled and guided by the Spirit]; then you will certainly not gratify the cravings and desires of the flesh (of human nature without God). Galatians 5:16 AMP

Peter denied Jesus seven times, but after he got filled with The Holy Spirit, He spoke openly and boldly to the Jews and leaders.

7. Avoid Undue Proximity With The Opposite Sex.
When you spend regular and too much time alone with a man or woman who is not your spouse, you might be opening a door to sexual sin.

I suggest that you do everything possible never to give this situation a chance.

….and don’t give the devil a chance. Ephesians 4:27 CEV

8. Do not ignore the signs.
Sometimes when someone is giving you suggestive attention, you should not encourage him or her in any way. Do not be silent and act like its nothing or he/she would go away. Do not keep silent because sometimes silence can be encouraging.
Speak out if you have to! Confront the person and let them know you see the signals but are not interested, please do this in a public place.

Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them. Ephesians 5:11 NASB

9. Run!
Just in case you are faced with temptation by someone you have fallen for before, it is no time to negotiate or explain. It is better to scream or make a fuss and gather a crowd than to fall and hurt God, you spouse and your family.
It is unwise to stand in the face of sexual temptation and implore negotiation, find a way of escape and flee, even if you have to leave your coat behind like Joseph did.

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18 NIV

It is possible never to fall adultery again, but you must put up a fight against it. Anyone who is willing can win this through Christ!

  • So what do you think?
  • Is it possible?

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, God's agent, speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God! Find her on: google
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14 Comments

  1. I needed listen this words, cleaning my soul, the only choice, because the Son of God will come and I want forgiveness and mercy from God in my life… and live in the right way… Thank you!

    1. God be praised Sabrina! And our God promises to forgive, heal and restore.
      God’s grace as you choose every day to please Him!
      Love

  2. Continuous prayers and fellowship with the Holy Spirit is of great help

    1. Yes!!! Can’t work without both!

  3. i am really grateful for stopping by this morning to check what’s new……….all that you said, is like you were talking to me. Mama J, i really need a counselor to help me on my Christine life. i am not always in SNM, no matter how hard i try maybe once every two months. many time i propose in my heart not to this or that, but soon or later a month or two, i see myself doing it again and this act is really breaking me down in everything i do. pls Mama J, tell me when can i see you in your office and the time. i need your advise and some words of encouragement. thanks

    Mustapha George Kallon

  4. Yes you are right about the vulnerability and thats why we do not meet to discuss anything we do it over the phone and the phone calls and the time we spend on the phone is limited. Please pray that i will always keep Gods will above my own. Thanks for the Godly advice and may Gods peace be upon you all.

    1. Amen. Will keep you in prayers sis!
      God bless!

  5. Yes, by God’s grace, it is possible. This is major spiritual warfare that you are describing. Once satan has won the upper hand in a battle like this, it will take double strength to combat him again. As we all know, God forgives and completely forgets our sins, but, unfortunately, satan does not forget. He loves to continue to throw them in our faces and tries to convince us that since we fell once in a certain area, we may as well give in again. As Paul said, we are not ignorant of his devices, and the sooner we identify him and what he is trying to pull over on us, the sooner we can start using God’s mighty weapons to pull down those strongholds. “But thanks be to God Who giveth us the victory through Jesus Christ our Lord.” Much love to you, sweet sister. 🙂

    1. Yes indeed, it is a major spiritual warfare and we must always fight to win.
      Many thanks sister for coming by, do have a super blessed day!
      Love

  6. I need some Godly advice. I have been giving some marital advive to my ex.his wife has been cheating with the same guy for over a year. She got pregnant and they did a blood test and the baby is NOT his baby its the other guys because he said the baby look just like him. She has also cheated with other guys as well. My ex and his wife are both christian. She also gave him an STD.They have a son together and currently are living in separate places. He has their son with him.His wife openly told him that she is now with the other guy and for now just want some space from him. I told him that the seperatin is good because it gives him time to seek the Lord on his behalf and his family. I told him that God loves marriage and nothing is impossible for him to fix but the main thing is that sin has to addressed as well as repentance. Please help!

    1. You are doing right Monique by giving encouragement via God’s word. He should intercede for his wife and marriage, there is nothing God cannot do.
      Meanwhile, I suggest you also be wise and keep a very safe distance because at this time he will be heratbroken and you might be in a vulnerable position offering him comfort and counsel and he might misunderstand you and expect you to do more…
      Have a super blessed day!
      Love

  7. These, of course, are great measures that we all must take to protect our hearts from going astray, Ugochi. I especially feel like accountability and prayer are so very vital to keeping this problem at bay. Thank you for your continued desire to help those who’ve been unfaithful in marriage. So many times we overlook the offender in favor of helping the offended, but both need our attention and help.

    1. Yes, both do need attention Beth. Thanks very much for coming by.
      Do have a super blessed day!
      Love

    2. Accountability is very important because without it there will be no true healing. We must admit that we have sinned and also we repent then there will be a transformation of the mind by the Holy Spirit.

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