It is true that many times in marriage we tend to see our spouse’s fault while we ignore, deny or are blinded by ours. We point accusing fingers and complain about how our spouses did or did not do this or that. We whine, holler, manipulate, threaten, fuss, nag, and complain when we do not get the treatment we think we deserve from our spouses.
We even turn “spiritual” and bang on heaven’s door, report to God, hold onto His garments, give Him no rest and bother Him with claims of how spouse is not treating us right, listening to us, caring for us, paying us attention…
Sometimes I can imagine God smiling and shaking His head at while He says, ”What about you?” I know like He asks me, he asks you, “Are you treating your spouse like you want him/her to treat you?”
Instead of asking God to take out the speck in your spouse’s eye, you should ask that God help you take out the beam in yours.
I want to share simple but very powerful prayers we could pray for ourselves in order to create a change in us that could begin the change we desire in our spouses and marriage.
1. Lord help me to love my spouse unconditionally like you love him/her.
Beloved, if God loved us so [very much], we also ought to love one another. 1 John 4:11 AMP
2. Help me Father to be selfless in my choices and decisions concerning my spouse and our marriage.
Love each other like brothers and sisters. Give each other more honour than you want for yourselves. Romans 12:10 NCV
Hereby perceive we the love [of God], because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down [our] lives for the brethren. 1 John 3:16
3. Oh God, cause me to always listen to you and your opinion before I think, speak or act concerning my spouse.
Whoever despises the word brings destruction on himself, but he who reveres the commandment will be rewarded. Proverbs 13:13
But he said, “Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and keep it!” (Jesus speaking) Luke 11:28
4. Help me Lord to always put my flesh under in my dealings with my spouse.
But I say, walk and live [habitually] in the [Holy] Spirit [responsive to and controlled and guided by the Spirit]; then you will certainly not gratify the cravings and desires of the flesh (of human nature without God). For the desires of the flesh are opposed to the [Holy] Spirit, and the [desires of the] Spirit are opposed to the flesh (godless human nature); for these are antagonistic to each other [continually withstanding and in conflict with each other], so that you are not free but are prevented from doing what you desire to do. Galatians 5:16-17 AMP
5. Change me Lord, that I might be a good example of what a Christian wife/husband should be.
God, create a pure heart in me, and renew a right attitude within me. Psalm 51:10 ISV
Therefore be imitators of God [copy Him and follow His example], as well-beloved children [imitate their father]. Ephesians 5:1 AMP
Let no one despise or think less of you, but be an example (pattern) for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12 AMP
When we pray God’s word, He hears, listens and answers.
And this is the confidence (the assurance, the privilege of boldness) which we have in Him: [we are sure] that if we ask anything (make any request) according to His will (in agreement with His own plan), He listens to and hears us. And if (since) we [positively] know that He listens to us in whatever we ask, we also know [with settled and absolute knowledge] that we have [granted us as our present possessions] the requests made of Him. 1 John 5:14-15 AMP
As we pray that God take out the speck in our eyes, we will see our spouses from a different and healthy perspective and that in turn will cause us to treat them differently, which in turn will cause them to respond differently yo us.
Are you praying for yourself in this regard?
Have you seen positive changes?
Are there some more points you would love to add?
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