How To Help Other Marriages

How To Help Other Marriages

Many marriages are struggling to stand and hold it together, challenges from within and without have been buffeting and pushing many couples to quit and throw their marriages away because they think they have come to their wits end and there is nothing more they can do. Some husbands and wives have become strangers to each other; even though they still live together, they are not together. This is very sad; it shouldn’t be so but like the enemy fights all of God’s plans and intentions, he will not give up on his attempt to destroy marriages because he senses the great potentials available to every man and his wife when they are truly united as one. how to help other marriages

So what has this got to do with you?
I know many times we get burdened when we see other marriages struggle, nearly break up or get destroyed. But the time has come to stand and do something about it instead of staying aloof and shrugging our shoulders like there is nothing we can do about it. You have a role to play; you can place your marriage as a tool in God’s hands to help other marriages stand firm and gain victory over the attacks of the enemy. You do not have to be an ordained minister, marriage counselor or pastor to help other marriages succeed. There are so many ways God can use you to be a blessing to marriages and help them achieve success.

1. Work Hard On Your Marriage
We cannot effectively help any marriage if we are not working on ours; we cannot give what we do not have. So the first step to helping other marriages is to work hard on our own marriage and make it a good example so that others will look at our marriages and know that their marriage too can be blissful. We must see to it that if others follow our marriage they will succeed.

Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven. Matthew 5: 16

2. Choose To care
We must not be selfish or care less about what is going on in our neighbours’, colleagues’, friends’ and relatives’ marriages. We must work the love in our hearts to a point where it breaks our heart to see other marriages suffering. This pain should then drive us to want to do something about it.

For Christ’s love compels us… 2 Corinthians 5: 14 (NIV)

3. Pray for other marriages
One very great way we can help challenged marriages is to pray for them. There is nothing impossible for God, but he desires that we ask Him and intercede for a change where we need it. We must not let our pain end in just being pained, we must allow compassion in our hearts, drive us to the one who can bring every challenge to an end. Pray for troubled marriages!

I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men. 1 Timothy 2:1

4. Offer Wise Counsel
When we offer counsel to a troubled couple; we must ensure that the counsel we give is a wise one. The only way we know wise counsel is to confirm it is God’s mind, God’s mind for marriage is written in The Bible. This means that any counsel outside God’s word is foolishness, and foolishness we know always leads to destruction.
If you do not know what to say to any couple or how and when to say it, it is better you keep quiet and pray rather than offer foolish and destructive counsel.

Deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil: but to the counsellors of peace is joy. Proverbs 12:20

For by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war Proverbs 24:6b

5. Don’t Tell Their Tale
We must learn not to tell or spread the word about what any marriage is going through. We must learn to handle challenged marriages with utmost respect and treat them as confidential. When we spread word about the challenges a marriage is facing we might end up complicating issues and we might end up ruining any chance of it being worked out. We should never allow troubled marriages to become a hot gossip from our lips or in our ears. When we do this, we help these marriages feel safe and maintain their dignity.

A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer a (tale bearer) separateth chief friends. Proverbs 16: 28 Insertion mine

We all ought to yield our marriages and ourselves as tools in God’s hands to build up and not tear down marriages; to strengthen and not weaken marriages.

Have you been helping other marriages?
Please share in the comments how you have been helping other marriages…
Or how you believe we can help marriages grow and get better.

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan

Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, God's agent, speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God! Find her on: google
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6 Comments

  1. I’ve really seen God open up so many opportunities for me and my husband to minister to married couples lately, especially in my church, Ugochi. It’s like there are so many that are afraid to admit their situation, until a ministry is offered and then they come out of the woodwork! I know that Satan wants to see Christian marriages destroyed because they are bedrock of our churches and our witness to the world. I always think about that fact when I’m helping someone in their marriage. It’s a field “white for harvest!” And I’m so glad you’re giving us the tools and encouragement to get out there and help in whatever way we can, my friend!

    1. Praise God for mentoring marriages Beth. I can imagine the joys you and your husband get from being used by God to minister to and rescue marriages from the jaws of the enemy.

  2. Hello Ugochi,

    Nice write up. Am guilty of this and have to ask God for forgiveness. We have a neighbour, who is going through turbulence in her marriage. The husband has practically moved out, leaving her and two kids. Although, my hubby and I prayed for them this weekend, but I just realised some of my counsel have not being in line with God’s Word, even though the man is really behaving in an IRRESPONSIBLE manner.

    May the Lord help us to be better examples of believers in all things, including our marriages.

    Shalom!!!

    1. Amen sister! We need grace for this. Meanwhile, do not stop praying for them, it is never too late with and for Him.

  3. I think this is all really great advice when it comes to helping others build up their marriages!

    1. I think so too Rachel, we all need to look out, not for ourselves only, but for others too!

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