Two years ago when my son was about going into the secondary school he was highly interested in boarding, even though we had told him from the beginning that we, as a matter of principle and choice do not have such plans for him or his younger ones.
He asked us severally why he couldn’t board seeing that most of his friends were going to be boarding at school. We tried to make him understand our reasons.
We still had so much to teach him and we feel we need more time with him especially during his teenage years; we wanted to be a huge part of this time of his life. After now, during university we get less and less time to “be” with them and besides, they would have formed to a very great extent by then.
The Pluses Of Boarding
Many parents I know hold the view that boarding school teaches a child independence and maturity and I agree. It also helps the child create a daily routine or schedule around his studies; I really am trying to implement this for our boys.
I believe if we make the time (which is mostly difficult in this busy world) we should be able to instill discipline and a healthy routine in the children. This I know would require plenty of time, effort and discipline on the part of parents.
Both Can Work
I know a lot of children who went through the boarding school and turned out very well and I also know some who went through a day school and turned out excellent.
It all depends on what works for parents, given their different experiences, situations and lifestyles.
The Very Best We Can Do Is Pray
I know and believe firmly that praying for them is very important; I was interviewed about it here. But there is something about daily reviews and constant teaching and fellowshipping with the children that makes it very important too. However, if your children are going to school from home and they hardly “see” you, it does not make any difference, you might as well send them to the hostel and plan for them during the holidays.
The Important Thing
So whether your children are going to school from home or they lodge in school, the most important thing is that you find regular moments of coaching, reviewing, teaching, and modeling to ensure that they do not live this time of their lives in your complete absence.
If holidays are properly used, with intentional schedules for the children, it would suffice.
Not A Parenting Get Away
Boarding school should not however be used as a tool to “send them away” in order to create time for you to do “other things”. No one can raise a child better than devoted parents, shoving them off to boarding to give you free time is not enough reason. You must weigh your options carefully.
In all, when we commit them into God’s hands, He is well able to keep them.
…For I know (perceive, have knowledge of, and am acquainted with) Him Whom I have believed (adhered to and trusted in and relied on), and I am [positively] persuaded that He is able to guard and keep that which has been entrusted to me and which I have committed [to Him] until that day. 2 Timothy 1: 12 (AMP)
Do you prefer your teenagers going to school from home or living in?
What are your reasons?
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