- They ask their domestic staff and/or children who came visiting their spouses while they were away.
- They keep an “eye” on them while at work by engaging a willing colleague of their spouse to keep then informed of any “move” their spouses make.
- Many husbands and wives go through their spouses’ text messages, emails, bags, pockets…searching “just making sure” there is nothing to worry about.
- Some always insist on speaking to the friend, colleague, boss, parent or whomever their spouse says they are with, to ensure they are not being lied to.
- Many cannot stand mere exchange of pleasantries between their spouse and an opposite sex; they are thinking something is going on between them.
- Some cannot handle the passage of even the shadow of an opposite sex pass by their spouses, their minds begin to play tricks on them.
The list can go on and on, but for time and space, I will let you add yours in the comment box.
In summary, I want to explain some terms.
Jealousy as displayed by God
Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God… Exodus 25: 5
Here to be jealous means not bearing any rival or the severe avenger of departure from Himself – Hebrew Lexicon
Jealousy as displayed by the world
Mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims – dictionary.com
Paranoia is a thought process believed to be heavily influenced by anxiety or fear, often to the point of irrationality and delusion – Wikipedia
Unhealthy jealousy and suspicion is lethal to any marriage, if we continually suspect our spouse and “follow” them everywhere to “make sure” they are not cheating on us, we live in FEAR. Our thoughts give room for the enemy and if not stopped… See Job’s exclamation:
For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me. Job 3: 25
Plus, it can be very frustrating to a spouse who is innocent and unassuming too.
I know that we should not accept any form of rivalry over our spouses. I also know that some people give room for their spouse to suspect them, but how do we know when it is God’s jealousy, man’s jealousy based on suspicion or plain paranoia?
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