There are lots of talk and awareness programs on “self”. We are reading a lot, learning a lot from the media on how to focus a bit more on ourselves. A lot is being said about “me time” and we are becoming very conscious of the fact that we do need to take care of ourselves.
And really I agree that we should, I mean, how else can we function properly in this world if we do not take proper care of ourselves? I do not think a “sick” person can be any good to anyone, society or even himself or herself. But I do have a little qualm about this whole talk of “taking care of me”.
Some people have taken it over the board, which is not surprising because there are people who will always take things to the extreme. Finding balance is always an issue because many people naturally find it difficult to know when to draw the line on something.
A lot of people have so taken to taking care of themselves that they no longer care for others. Women are now having more me times and bother less about their responsibilities as wives and mothers. The men spend more time at the gym, at the club or in bed after a long hard day, trying to “refresh” and their wives and children are missing them and even hardly even know them anymore.
People no longer care about the needy people around them, they are not interested in helping anyone one, there is no longer a sense of community because everyone is just too self-absorbed, because they must take care of “me”, and this is killing our society.
Even the Church is being affected; the body of Christ is no longer what it should be “a body”. People are dying all around us, both physically and spiritually but we have to take care of “me”.
I agree people have been hurt, bruised and wounded in their bid to show love and care. People have been taken for granted when bearing others burdens. Some people have been grossly misunderstood too, and this can lead someone to give up on helping and caring. That is the natural thing to do, but not for followers of Christ, he gave, and cared, and helped and bore our burdens to His own hurt, even to His death, and He commands us to follow His examples.
Let me reiterate that I am all for taking care of self and all, if I am not okay, I will not be very effective in taking care of another, or bearing another’s burden. But if I decide to look beyond my need and help someone else meet theirs, I will be sowing a seed and my own need will get God’s attention because I am walking in obedience. Jesus set an example for us, He put our need to be saved ahead of His need to remain in His glory in heaven.
God expects us to bear one another’s burdens. Sometimes the burden might be very heavy but God will help us. Remember how Jesus carried the heavy cross all the way because of you and I? He expects us to love and care for one another just like He cares for us. When we do we are simply obeying Him.
Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.
Once when I talked about this someone pointed me to few verses after this scripture in verse 5:
For every man shall bear his own burden.
This verse is no way a contradiction, it refers to everyone being responsible for their actions, it does not mean, we should not bear each other’s burdens. (I just needed to throw this in just in case you see it your self and wonder…)
Please do not be discouraged, do not get to self-absorbed, step out of your comfort zone and bear your husband’s, wife’s, child’s, sibling’s, friend’s, fellow believer, man-on-the-street’s burden. You gladden God’s heart when you step outside your comfort and bear another person’s burden, wouldn’t you like to gladden God’s heart?
I want to ask you two questions:
1. Have you ever taken on some one’s challenge as if it was yours and made sure it was settled?
2. Do you remember how you felt when someone stepped in and bore your own burden for you?
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, God's agent, speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God! Find her on: google
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