(Monday’s Married Circle)
(My very own talkability mouth, lol!)
I can talk! Well who cannot? But I really can talk, my disposition most times looks like that of a very quiet person, but that is all it is, just looks! And if you meet me for the very first time or see me from far away you would think that I do not talk or at least not much but I am a believer that first impressions do not really count, I talked a bit about it HERE. I know I can talk a lot, especially at the heat of the moment when my emotions are on top gear, I can talk; I mean really talk at a very fast pace.
And who best to “enjoy” my talkability but my dear husband? If this was always in the positive sense of it, it would have been very great because my husband likes to talk; in fact he lives on talking, lol! My husband wants me to talk with him every time, but I am usually overly too serious minded for that, too busy with other wifely and mommy duties.
I thought I could talk but when I met my husband I realized that I am just an amateur at talking. But like I said earlier, my husband would have really loved it if I talked with him all the time, unfortunately, my talkability comes to play mostly in the negative sense, when I am upset about something, usually something he did or didn’t do. That is not nice is it? I don’t think so too. But in my own defense, I am working seriously on it, trying to use my talkability in the positive sense instead of the negative, trying to make sure I talk him happy. I am not “there” yet, but it is not as bad as it was in the beginning of our marriage, I hope
believe he can attest to this.
If you are a woman reading this you will agree with me that we are so gifted by God in this area of talking. God has blessed us with talkability and He always has a purpose for every gift He gives, and this gift of talkability He has given us He intends us to use to His glory, He intends us to use it to help our husbands, encourage, uplift, applaud, and honour them. But like we all know satan always wants to corrupt everything God created. He always wants the woman to nag and rant and talk until the husband gets upset and maybe talks back, walks out, goes away, shuts down, or in some cases of extreme anger hits the wife (I don’t support any of these actions and most of all the last one). Even when our husbands say some really annoying things, instead of responding immediately and speaking unwisely, it would pay better to bite your tongue and wait for a better time to talk so we can talk as the wise women God has created us.
No man likes a nagging woman, it can destroy a marriage, in fact I know about one that happened very recently. Isn’t that what the devil wants, break down in marriages?!
It’s better to stay outside on the roof of your house than to live inside with a nagging wife.
It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.
But we (all the wives) can say no to the devil, we can say no by praying and leaning on God to help us use His gift of talkability to be our husbands’ true helpers. We can do it, with God we can hold our tongues, with God we can resist the devil, with God we can honour God with this gift of talkability.
I know you might be thinking this:
But no one can control the tongue. It is wild and evil, full of deadly poison. James 3:8 (ERV)
…With men this is impossible; but with God all things Matthew 19:26
I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh: is there anything too hard for me? Jeremiah 32:27
Now some of you husbands are not innocent of this, I have seen some men who have out nagged their wives; you too should do something about it!
I am working on this area of my life, I want to honour God and my husband with my tongue, how about you, what say you?!
Everything you say should be kind and well thought out so that you know how to answer everyone.