HOW HE BEAT ME UP!

Beating : one caucasian couple man strangulate woman expressing domestic violence in studio silhouette isolated on white background

Yes he did, under an almond tree, in the dark of the night, and with a stick. It hurt, sooooo bad, it hurt so bad I could feel the pain in my heart and brain. I had bruises all over (thank God none on my face) but I did a good job of hiding it from everyone at home.  I refused to cry, I just took all in and waited for him to finish, he was too strong for me and I didn’t want to cause a scene because people lived around there. When I left him that night I knew that was the last time I would ever be with him, when I left him that night, I knew I had left him for life.

How could he, how dared he beat me up, because what, he was my boyfriend and I loved lust him? I had no idea what love was at the time, I just felt good to be wanted by the opposite sex and since it was trendy to have a boyfriend, trendy in my own world then, (everyone I knew or chose to know had a boyfriend), so why not?
How old was I? I had just turned 15 and I had so  many parts of life to explore, the boyfriends was one of them. I new next to nothing about how things worked in this life, but I knew I could never be in an abusive relationship, I never saw my parents argue, exchange words or fight and I had told my self that any man that hits me will have that opportunity only once. And when I said this I meant in marriage, I didn’t think any “boyfriend” would have the guts to hit me, I was wrong.
Now why did he hit me? He expected me to meet him up some where and I didn’t get there on time, he asked of me from a neighbour and I was not at home, so I had gone to see “another boyfriend”. And I needed to be beaten, so I could what, learn a “lesson”!

He came begging, he said he was driven by jealousy, he loved me too much and couldn’t stand the thought that he was sharing me with someone else…ha, what a story! He said this to someone else because I didn’t even give him any opportunity to tell me his story.
Is that not the common trend of abusive relationships? They always beg and want you back, but then they abuse you again, naaa…I wasn’t going to fall for it. I was always scared of being spanked, ask my mother, and I wasn’t going to stand it now that I had the choice.

All this happened because I didn’t know any better, I had not met Christ and was
Iiving the best way I knew to.

In case you are going through some thing like this right now, you can say no, you can walk away from that abusive relationship, it does not have to be hitting abusive, it could be verbal or sexual, or any other.
As a single person hoping to get married, you may want to hold on to an abusive relationship because you feel if you leave no one else would want you, it is not true. Do not keep thinking it would end one day…it could get worse.
I didn’t have enough sense to live right and pure, but I had some sense to walk away, you too can!
If you know Jesus and have Him as Lord and friend, it makes it a lot easier, He always helps and strengthens you to take the right steps.

Do you have any such story? Do you mind sharing?



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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, God's agent, speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God! Find her on: google
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24 Comments

  1. I’m so glad you walked away from that situation and I’m sure your post as encouraged other women who have been in the same type of situation. Keep shining for Christ!

    1. Me too Becca, it was a big scare for me. I sure believe some of my readers have been encouraged. Thanks a lot Becca for you constant encouragement, have a super blessed week!
      Love

  2. This is very deep and touching. I have not experienced it but someone close to me have.. and I had to stop every bone in my body from attacking the man (or I should say BOY or DOG) who thought it was okay to touch my sister.
    I am following you now and is interested in reading your next post. I would appreciate a follow back.
    Jillian
    http://puzzlemecomplete.blogspot.com/

    1. Hi Jillan!
      It is important we tell everyone we know or come in contact with know that they CAN say no to abuse. So glad you came by, I look forward to seeing you again soon. Thanks a lot and have super blessed day!
      Love

  3. That is my prayer Angela, to make them realize they can say no to abuse too! Thanks for coming by and leaving a note, have a super blessed day! Please forgive me for the late response.
    Loving you

  4. I’m sure there are many women who can benefit from this post, because so many women are abused and don’t know what to do, especially the married ones. Thanks for sharing. Please check out my blog at http://quildonwrites.blogspot.com.

    1. That is my prayer Angela, to make them realize they can say no to abuse too! Thanks for coming by and leaving a note, have a super blessed day! Please forgive me for the late response.
      Loving you

  5. I think it is a bit tough for the married because most of the times children are involved. But I believe when life is threatened, no one should remain in an abusive relationship.

  6. glad you got out of that relationship…wow.

    1. Me too! I couldn’t imagine remaining in it at all!

  7. Inspirational as always buh I just wonder what ur tots would be on people in abusive marriages. Are they allowed to walk away or endure for eternity?

    Jeremy

    1. I think it is a bit tough for the married because most of the times children are involved. But I believe when life is threatened, no one should remain in an abusive relationship.

  8. Wow! You are strong too, not many people are able to leave…Thanks for coming by and leaving a note, so glad to have you here have a super blessed day!

  9. I was amazed my self because it was hard beating. I truly really pray someone gets blessed out of this. Thanks for coming by and leaving a note, have a super blessed day!
    Love

  10. Wow Tricia! Thanks a lot for having such thoughts of me and my blog! I appreciate you!

  11. I know, I just thought some one would learn from it, it wasn’t easy putting it up. Do not worry, your children do not have to have your experience, just share yours with them so they can learn from it. And pray too…
    Thanks for coming by and leaving a note, have a super blessed day!
    Love

  12. Thanks for coming by Mohala! I hope to see you again soon. Have a super blessed day!
    Love

  13. I have my own story, mostly like yours, although I am not up for sharing all the details I will say that I was beat on several occasions. I was only 15/16 and didn’t know any better. It took me some time to get away but once I did I vowed to myself to never let even a verbally abusive relationship go on because it could eventually lead to physical. Thanks for sharing. You are a strong person for what you have done and what you have shared.

    new follower from the blog hop.

  14. Wow, you are a strong woman! I’m glad you stood up for yourself and now you are sharing your story to help others, Awesome!

  15. Very powerful! I do have my own story, it will be hard to write though 🙁 You’re such an inspiration! I gave you a blog award, pick it up here http://www.todaywiththetennerys.com/2012/09/a-world-blogger-me-thanks.html

  16. What a great post to share. It’s a hard one to hear and to share I am sure but it helps others to know they are not alone and that they can get out of an abusive relationship. Thanks for sharing.

    Irish
    Dedicated2life.com

    1. My exact thoughts when I was posting it, amen! I pray it does just that. Thanks for coming by and leaving a note, have a super blessed day!
      Love

  17. So scary! It was very brave to share your story! I am the mother of three girls two of which get a little older everyday! Boyfriends and love scare me! I had a bad experience with someone I loved and trusted. I was lucky he did not physically hurt me…but I will never forget the pain. Thanks for sharing.
    Loressa
    lifescuriouswisdom.com

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