I thought to share the story of the men who wanted to marry me, not all but five. I am hoping that singles would learn a thing or two from my experience. These men all came with different promises for me, wonderful promises I must say and irresistible too!
The travelling evangelist.
He had a great passion for God. He promised to take me round the world on missions, he reminded me that almost all the girls in school wanted him and he wanted to get hooked with someone (me) so that they would leave him alone. I may be wrong but he just wanted to use me to stop “the girls” from bugging him. And I thought he thought I should think it a privilege that he asked for my hand in marriage. I don’t like it when someone tries to impress me with fame, name or things.
The international business man.
This one was an arranged thing, my mum knew him or his family, I can’t remember exactly. He also tried to impress me, but this time in a different manner. He tried to make me believe he knew God. But all I smelled was religion; he was very sly about it. He then went on to tell me how he had branches of his business all over the world, how I would manage the one in Germany and he will manage one somewhere else and would fly into Germany often to be with me. I wondered if he wanted a wife or just a business partner, or representative.
This one really got me, or rather I allowed him to get me. He received an absolute approval nod from my mum who was recently widowed and loved the church he pastored. He was also son to her and my dad’s very good friends and I wanted to make her happy so I just agreed to marry him. Big mistake! He turned out to be insincere, and I did some stupid things with him. I was just second fiddle, his first choice was still dilly dallying and I was a plan B. But plan A suddenly gives a yes and I didn’t even know, dowry was paid, wedding was fixed and…
He was a true believer, with genuine love for God; he didn’t try to impress me, was down to earth and had sincere intentions. But I just couldn’t marry him, he was my Pastor, he started the fellowship I attended in school and was pastoring the church in the city. I was a somewhat new believer who still felt unworthy, who am I to marry a pastor I thought.
He was down to earth, had almost nothing to impress me with. In fact he told me, he had nothing at all besides his love for God and plenty of Christian literature, lol! Told me his house was literally bare, and could host a football game. He was the exact opposite of what I wanted in a husband, I told a bit about this HERE. At first I liked him but as we spent time talking (mostly over the phone) I thought to myself, why would I want to marry this person who did not look or talk like I liked?
The meek will he guide in judgment: and the meek will he teach his way.
I believe when a man wants a woman for marriage, he should just tell her instead of putting up a front and trying to impress her with some funny promises. Don’t always assume all women are the same and want to marry you for what you have in terms of material possessions. Be plain, I believe there are so many sisters like me who will get put off when you try to impress them with things.
And I believe sisters should be down to earth as well, when you have an air about you, you give the impression that you want a certain class of people, and most often this keeps out genuine men. Then some men who think because they have “what” you want will give you a go and you might end up just being one of their “properties”, and so treated as such.
Which one I married?! The last man on this list, who had “nothing” to impress me with, I felt peace in my heart even though so many external things didn’t add up, yet I am so satisfied because he is a man of vision with a heart for God and His kingdom, and this is to my utmost delight.
Now, please share your thoughts as a man, how would you woo your lady, with plain sincere words or a house full of promises? And sisters, who would you have chosen among the five?