THE FEAR OF MARRIAGE

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All over the world today marriages are failing and falling apart. Divorces rates are on sky rocket increase. People are losing interest in their homes, they are not determined to stay, stand and fight for their homes.

A man suddenly gets up and walks out of his marriage. A wife gets tired of working at the relationship and prefers to be alone instead or believes that a perfect man will marry her and make her life better.

Marriage vows are no longer taken seriously. People not only commit adultery, they live in adultery. They do not care about their spouses and children.

They give flimsy excuses about how they are not satisfied with their spouses and how they are no longer compatible. Couples, always wanting it easy find, their ways out of marriage once they think it is not working. “I have done my best.” You hear them say. It is always easier to walk away than to work on a relationship.


What then is the hope for believing singles who want so much to get married? What is the hope that they can build a marriage that is lasting and pleasing God? How can you as a single know for sure that the common trends in marriages all over the world will not befall you when you get married?


Thank God there are still many marriages that are leaving examples for you to follow. Every marriage has its challenges, but if the principles of God are applied, the challenges can be dealt with.

Do not be threatened by the negative stories you have seen and heard, do not allow fear to grip your heart and make you wonder if you should risk marriage, yes you should! Your own will not end up like theirs, not if you do it God’s way. Refuse fear; refuse to give up even before you get married. God created marriage for you to enjoy, do not allow the devil deceive you by showing you how so and so’s marriage did not work out.


Even if your parents or relatives did not have great marriages, yours will not be like theirs. You must take courage and believe that your marriage will be different. Stop blocking the thoughts of getting married because you fear, go on and give your relationships the chance to blossom, don’t shoo people away from you because you are afraid to commit to anything due to fears that your marriage will end up like the ones that failed.


Be encouraged, take that step, follow your spirit, follow your heart, and follow God. With God you can enjoy a great marriage!



Psalm 37:5

Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.

Psalm 55:22 

Put your cares on the Lord, and he will be your support; he will not let the upright man be moved.

2 Timothy 1:7 

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, God's agent, speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God! Find her on: google
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5 Comments

  1. Oh yes Becca! 1 John 5:3 tells us that.
    I will check out the stores for the book, Gary is great with marriage and relationships, I am sure it will be a great blessing.
    And communication is more important than all the goose bump moments during dating or courtship.
    Thanks for your visit Becca, and your notes too.
    Have a fruitful day!

  2. Thanks for sharing, Ugochi! God intends marriage to be for life, and He doesn’t give us any commands that He won’t empower us to fulfill. I’m reading “Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married” by Gary Chapman. I’m not through it yet, but so far it’s a great read. Focuses working through potential problem areas before getting married. Communication before and after marriage is a MUST!

    1. Oh yes Becca! 1 John 5:3 tells us that.
      I will check out the stores for the book, Gary is great with marriage and relationships, I am sure it will be a great blessing.
      And communication is more important than all the goose bump moments during dating or courtship.
      Thanks for your visit Becca, and your notes too.
      Have a fruitful day!

  3. You cannot be more correct, unfortunately those who are dating or in courtship just ignore these important matters for discussion and keep on looking in the eyes and getting the goose bumps.
    God help us all!
    Thanks for coming by and leaving a note Rachel.
    Have a blessed day!

  4. One of the most important things you can do to protect your marriage before it even begins is to make sure that both you and your intended spouse wholeheartedly believe that divorce it not an option when things get tough. If either of you consider it an option, that’s not good.

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