“It almost happened, I was so sure he was going to propose, instead he brought me all the way to this beautiful place, just so he could tell me he didn’t think it would work out between us.”
“Not again!” “I thought she loved me enough to marry me, she has always been sweet to me, I did not in any way see this coming, I was very positive!” “Why does this keep happening to me?”
“Why is this always happening to me?” “Why is it that at the height of any relationship I am in, everything just crumbles… just fizzles out?”
People face disappointments daily in many areas of life, things do not work out as planned all the time, this is real life. But does this mean we should lose hope? Nah! As a single hoping to get married, getting a no from a proposal to a lady does not in any way mean you should not propose to anyone else. Or a guy you loved so much and had so much hopes for suddenly breaks up with you does not mean you should not expect another proposal.
For one disappointment we face, there are many more appointments lined up for us. And we can only access these appointments if we handle disappointments the right way. If anyone walks away from you, tell yourself he / she is not the one. And keep your hopes up for the right one to manifest as you prepare yourself to meet him/her, working out those great attributes in you.
As long as you are alive, there is hope for you. After all the dead do not get married do they? If you are single and reading this, it means you should be hopeful. Fight frustration and depression; fight everything that wants to make you give up hope.
Hopelessness is a tool of the enemy (the devil) to make you give up when there is no reason to; he paints several pictures of impossibilities for you and whispers his lies to you. Everything he says is a lie, he is the father of all lies, and there is no single truth in him.
…the devil… He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
He is the one who tries to sell hopelessness to you, wanting you to get depressed and give up; he likes to see you sad.
Even if you seem to have lost hope, you can get your hope back, right now. Only a hopeful person is healthy enough to even get married. Think positive thoughts, think of people who have waited and are now married, refuse to think of the ones who died single and unhappy, that is what the enemy would want you to think about. Somehow, thinking that since some other person who waited like you are waiting now got married, will give you hope that it can happen to you too.
When you remember that it
can will happen for you too, your joy will be restored.
A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.
A hopeless person is not excited about life or anything. No one gets attracted to dry bones and joy makes you really attractive.
Remember that there is hope for you as long as you have life in you, it can happen for you if you do not let go of your hope.
For to him that is joined to all the living there is hope: for a living dog is better than a dead lion.
Single hood is not His ultimate for you, He knows it is not good for you to remain alone, He has promised to give provide you with your spouse:
And the LORD God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
If God promised a help meet for the man, then the woman should also get excited because she is a solution to some man that God has prepared.
Let your hope be in God and in His word, for it is only Him who can make it happen for you, He knows the “hows” and the “whens”, He knows the kind of person you need, He knows exactly how to cause the divine meeting happen. And He cannot go back on His promises,
I wait for the LORD, my soul doth wait, and in his word do I hope.
My covenant will I not break, nor alter the thing that is gone out of my lips.
Remember, for one disappointment, there are several appointments lined up for you…
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, God's agent, speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God! Find her on: google
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