KNOWING ME, KNOWING YOU

I was in a gathering some years back when couples were called out in front of the audience and asked random questions about their spouses.
Questions about their spouse’s favourite colours, favourite foods & drinks, tooth brush colours, best sleeping positions, best way of relaxation and all…

It was very funny watching how some spouses were so on point in their answers and amazing how some just kept guessing while others didn’t even have a clue.


I believe there is always something new to learn about our spouses, but I also know that we should know our spouses better than anyone else, so well that we can predict them.

There are two ways we can learn:

  • By watching our spouses carefully with the deliberate intention to get to really know them.
  • By asking direct questions in the quest. Of course we cannot remove spending quality time as a help towards this.

These two would work effectively if we ask God to let us into our spouses’ hearts. We should know our spouses to the point that we can stand and speak for them anywhere and in whatever circumstance. 
We should be able to make correct decisions and judgements on their behalf when they are not there. I believe there is some element of carelessness in a marriage where a husband and wife know very little or almost nothing about each other; it may be the symptom of a severe disease.

Couples ought to know each other so well that it becomes easy to please each other, since they have come to know what they would like or dislike. When couples get to know each other in this manner, knowing what makes each other tick, marriage becomes a lot happier and joy full than when they work in assumptions or carelessness.

I am totally of the school of thought that when a couple of faith, base their marriage on understanding and following the word of God, their marriage is bound for bliss. We should also apply God given wisdom by deliberately pursuing this bliss and I know that getting to know each other so very well with the intent of working at making each other happy, pleasing each other, is one way to marital bliss.

So be observant, it could be a statement, body language, and sometimes even silence that could tell us something we need to know about our spouses. Remember to ask questions where and when necessary instead of assuming, this is one way to become one flesh and it could save your marriage a great deal of hassles. I also think, just for learning fun, you should  play a game of Knowing Me: Knowing You.


Genesis 2:24 

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.


Proverbs 24:3  
Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: 

Proverbs 13:15  

Good understanding giveth favour…


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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, God's agent, speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God! Find her on: google
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22 Comments

  1. You have amazing wisdom- keep sharing! I’m not married, but I’m trying to soak up advice such as this in the in-between time. Couples are to be one, and I like how you related that in this post. Knowing everything about each other is part of that oneness. I also like how you said about when a marriage is built on God’s Word, it’s bound for bliss. That is totally the truth whenever we follow God’s way.

    Btw, I was happy to nominate you for the Versatile Blogger award: http://ahumblebumble.blogspot.com/2012/07/the-versatile-blogger-award-thanks.html

    1. Amen Becca!
      I am sure yours will be a bliss-full one founded on God’s love. And I hope you will remember to send me an invite…

      Awww! Thanks for nominating me, I feel honoured. You have been a great sis! Love

  2. such wisdom! love your heart 🙂

    1. Praise God and thanks Erin! Have a blessed day!

  3. Loved this post! I’ve been happily married for 30 years. . .to the same man 🙂 And yes, I know the color of his toothbrush;) This would be a good post to share with engaged couples or newly marrieds.
    Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks, glad you loved it. And it’s great you know your husband so well, unfortunately it is not so for some other old couples, men are mostly guilty. Thanks for coming by and leaving a note, I appreciate you.
      Have a blessed day!

  4. Ugochi,I love this! And I agree with you that we need to study our spouses to find out what actions on our part mean the most to them. To that end, “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, is really helpful. My hubby and I loved it and recommend it to all of our married friends.

    1. Yes, it is a great book! And the importance of knowing our spouses cannot be over emphasized.

  5. Excellent! I am always learning stuff about Jason, not as much as I used to but it still happens. I don’t think that is a game that men would play much, I know Jason wouldn’t do it. 🙂

    1. Just give it a try, you might be surprised if you make it fun!

  6. Excellent post. We should know our better half more than anybody else. I guess that’s also why we finish each other’s sentences, right? It’s because you think the same as your partner.

    Does that mean we shouldn’t keep secrets from each other? 🙂

    1. Yes Pepper, we should know better. And yes, no secrets!
      Thanks for coming by, hope you are having a great summer!

  7. Great verses today!! So important to remember how we should cherish our spouses!! 🙂 Awesome post!

    1. Yes Rebecca! Thanks!

  8. Great post. Hoping to get some one-on-one time with my hubby this weekend. I agree that it is important to know your spouse. So often we get caught up in everything else in our busy lives that we don’t put any energy into our marriages.

    Thanks for linking up with Weekend Blog Walk again!

    Jessica @ At Home Take 2

    1. This busy life has its consequences if not properly balanced. We must all work towards better marriages by making time…
      Thanks for coming by and leaving a note.
      Have a blessed day!

  9. As always a good and interesting site be well

    1. Thanks my friend, God bless you!

  10. I’m one of those that’s guilty of not knowing enough about my wife.
    (according to her)LOL It’s a question that she ask from time to time. You give some good advice that I’m willing to practice. BUT, will I ever know enough? Good Post!

    1. You certainly will not bro! Lol! People’s preferences change, notions change too…But you can know all there is to know for that season, so you can go on and practice, your wife will love you more for it.
      Thanks for coming by and leaving a note, have a great week!

  11. I love this Ugochi! And you are so right. Just when I don’t think I can learn anything else new about my husband, he will surprise me with some new little tidbit I knew nothing about! 🙂 I’m going to have the play this game…it will be fun. 🙂

    1. Yes Mindy, still so much to learn about each other since preferences and some other things change. It is a fun game for sure! Thanks for coming by and leaving a note.

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