Waiting for marriage can be a very trying time for singles. It is very difficult for the heart not to be consumed with the desire to get married, especially when you feel time is running out on you. When this desire consumes the heart, it becomes difficult to focus on anything else. You wake up with it, think it, dream it, sleep it…
This trend can destroy a life, it can cause a person to pause on life, to sleep and wake up thinking marriage. It can cause you to abandon living and instead just wait to get married; living like this can cause stagnation, unhappiness, loneliness, frustration and depression.
You can still live a meaningful, productive, satisfying and impact full life as a single while waiting to get married. You can still dream your dreams, pursue and actualize them. Otherwise life for you might get boring and frustrating. You must have something to look up to every day, something that makes you want to get up every morning, besides getting married. Marriage is not an end; it is just a means to an end. It is only living people who get married, a dead person will not attract any spouse. You must be alive!
You must ask yourself: why was I created, what am I living for, what am I supposed to contribute to the world, or my world? If you settle down and answer these simple but profound questions, you will discover that there is so much to live for besides getting married. Refuse to live a mundane life: refuse to put a stop to living because you are not married.
I am not saying marriage is not important, I am happily married and living too. Marriage has its profound blessings and addition to the life of a person. What I am saying is that you can still live your life to the fullest and make the impact that you are created to and capable of making. While you are waiting for that person whom God has prepared for you to share your life with, please go on with living. Dream dreams, pursue your dreams, follow your passion, and follow your heartbeat. God has created you to contribute something to your world, to your circle of influence.
What are you pressing towards?
I press toward the goal for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.
If you put off everything and just pursue marriage, life may just become mundane to you and it can be frustrating. I have been there before, though for a brief period.
If you continue living a mundane life, there are lots of chances that you will end up attracting one who is living like that, remember that like attracts like.
Live your life purposefully, live with your dreams in mind, live a meaningful life.
I therefore so run, not as uncertainly; so fight I, not as one that beateth the air:
I want to implore you to live your life while you are waiting to get married. Life is not all about getting married, there are many married people whose lives are not counting for anything. The most important thing in life is the impact you make, the lives you affect positively and where and how you end up in this life and the life after.
Your dreams are worth pursuing; your life is worth living. Please live while you wait!
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, God's agent, speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God! Find her on: google
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