As a single lady, I had in mind the kind of man I wanted to marry. A man who is:
Husky voiced- maybe I read too much romance growing up
Very romantic- too much romance novels again
With a nine to five job-wanted the evenings and weekends for us
Very cuddly: especially when we sleep
Who would love me and treat me right
Who would never lift his finger on me
Who basically fears God and lives exclusively for Him…without alternatives.
See what I got:
Not very tall, 5.8/9ft
Not as dark as I desired
Not broad shouldered, slim, and in fact was very slim when I met him
Not husky voiced at all
Romantic in his own special way
His work schedule is…you don’t want to know
But he makes good time for his family
Not able to hold me in his arms through the night, lol!
Places great value on his family
Loves me beyond my merit
Never lifted his finger over me
Loves God with everything in him
Passionate about his obedience to God’s word
Always ready to help people…
When he proposed I wondered why he didn’t look like I dreamed. He not
dark black like my father, no husky romantic voice, in fact his proposal had no romantic side at all.
What! God is he the one?
I can tell you that though he didn’t “look” like prayer answered, he sure “is”. God answered me beyond my imagination; He gave me one of His best.
This reminds me of a story my husband read and always tells, of a young man who desired to have a car gift from his father upon his graduation, but instead when he unwrapped his gift it was a book, not just any book-The Bible. Young and full of energy he just tossed it aside and left it in his room as he headed out of his father’s house to start his own life. When he came home after some years on his father’s passing, he went to his room and decided to open the Bible, yes, you guessed right if you thought he found a car key, with a receipt in his name to go and pick it up from the car shop.
I have never stopped telling young or unmarried people to place more importance on the content of their desired spouse than the container, on the gift more than the package. It is important to look beyond the physical when considering whom to marry. Looks can be very deceptive; the heart is the heart of the matter. Look at the heart; trust God for an exposition of this person before you go on.
Now, I am not saying that physical attraction does not matter, but looks cannot hold any relationship, it does not last forever, it can fade. It is nothing to bank on at all, the only thing that counts is the content and condition of the heart.
Speaking of the heart, everyone was born with a corrupt heart.
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
But God can create the right heart for anyone.
Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.
A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you:
Only a heart that believes in and completely trusts in God, that loves Him absolutely will be able to love you and make a blissful home with you.
But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.
Choose wisely; don’t give up the content for the container.