My husband was snoring away while I sobbed so hard, tears streaming down my face uncontrollably. I got even more upset at this and walked out the door with a big bang. I went into the study and hugged my knee to my chest expecting to see my husband walk through the door full of profound apologies for what he had done to me. He spoke to me in a very rash manner and I really truly thought he should apologize to me. Well I was wrong.I waited and waited and waited… he wasn’t coming.
I felt something someone tell me to go and apologise, I fought that immediately. Why should I apologise when he was the one in the wrong? That is not fair I thought. He will take me for granted if I do that, he would just keep hurting me and never say sorry. But I could not rest, I could not sleep, I just kept crying at the “injustice”. Why, why should i apologise, if I was wrong, I would understand, but I wasn’t or was I?
After hours of emotional and mental battle, I went into the room and found the man cosily covered to his neck with the quilt, snoring in bed. I was angry at him, how could he be sleeping and leave me in such misery? How can he hurt me so and have the heart to snore away? This isn’t fair, this isn’t fair at all! I cried a bit more. I almost stopped in anger but love will not let me.
I just stood and thought for a bit about what had happened and realised that I was guilty too, I had spoken in a very disrespectful manner to my husband, my head and my leader and that was very wrong.
So I tapped him, cried my apologies, he muttered something like, “it’s okay honey” and went right back to sleep. At that moment, such love and peace engulfed me and I just couldn’t help but thank God for not letting me remain in that misery through the night. It is good to be at peace in your heart with everyone, especially your spouse, the misery of strife in marriage or can kill.
No wonder The Bible says:
Depart from evil, and do good; seek peace, and pursue it.
If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
Our ways are quite different from our maker’s and Father’s ways. He does not want us to go by our feelings and our rules, but by His principles. Obedience is very important to God, and promptly too. I bet He was not happy I hesitated but I believe He was that I finally obeyed Him.
I have come to know that it is God’s love that makes Him correct us.
The Lord corrects the people he loves and disciplines those he calls his own. Hebrews 12:6 (CEV)
I always rejoice and feel very loved when God corrects me, He does not want me to go wrong or stay in the wrong. He wanted me to enjoy peace in my heart and in my home; He did it because He loves me.
It is good to pursue and make peace as couples, it makes for marital bliss.
Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, God's agent, speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God! Find her on: google
Latest posts by Ugochi Oritsejolomisan (see all)