TO GIVE OR NOT TO GIVE

Giving or sharing can be exciting… sometimes.  Some other times it can be very hard, painful or even annoying. Especially if it is something you really love or you really need. Have you ever cried over something you knew you had to give but didn’t want to? You haven’t? Well I have.


In the year 2008 my husband and I went on a tour to Israel, there he bought me this limited edition of Donna Karen (DKNY) wrist watch. I was in love with it to say the least, I loved wrist watches, and I still do.

Back home few weeks later, three friends and I went for a conference. One of my friends fell in 
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love with the speaker because she spoke truths that affected her in a profound way.
She felt like giving her a gift, and the only valuable thing she had on her was her wrist watch, so off her wrist it went and into the speaker’s hands. That left a very not comfortable consequence for me. Because immediately I was prompted to give my friend the watch I had on my wrist, guess which watch I had on, my DKNY of course.



I am a very good girl, very loving and giving, after all she is my friend isn’t she? Wrong! I refused, I did not, we got into the car and started making our way home. I smiled and laughed as we chatted happily home. But my stomach was churning in discomfort since the prompting in my heart to release that watch did not stop, it got stronger and stronger. Still I didn’t give it. My DKNY, rare and beautiful, never seen on anyone else then or now?

I refused to tell my husband of the struggle on my inside. I think several days later, about eight, came and went, when in tears I walked up to my friend and gave her the watch, I sobbed heavily as I put it in her hand and walked away immediately. I was afraid I might reach out and snatch it back out of her hand.

But you know what? I felt peace; I had been facing serious torment in my heart because I refused to give out what I had. I not only felt peace, I was also joyous, of course my flesh cried out but my heart knew better.  I was really glad I finally yielded. Plus, I got gifts of several wrist watches afterwards. Happy ending to a not very happy beginning ay?

Another story…I got a new phone in December of last year and decided to give out the one I had before. I was not talked into it at all, I just did it. But there was a pouch, a beautiful leather pouch that came with it but I wanted to use it for the new phone, wasn’t going to give that one. You know what? I lost it, it fell off my laps in a gas station far away from home and I didn’t remember until I got home.  So now, I don’t have it and the person I should have given it to doesn’t have it. Not a happy ending at all.

What’s the point? It is very good to give; it is in fact more blessed to give than to receive. If you make yourself a channel of blessing to others, then you will never lack blessings. Ask the water pipe that constantly supplies water: it will tell you it never runs dry.

Here are some truths about giving:

…It is more blessed to give than to receive. Acts 20:35b
They who sow in tears shall reap in joy. Psalm 126:5
But this I say, he which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully.  2 Corinthians 9:6
Give and it shall be given unto you good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over shall men give into your bosom…Luke 6:38

Now, let’s start giving and sharing, or giving and sharing some more, that’s what love is about. Give your time, your smile, your gifts, your resources, your listening ear, you just might be that miracle to that someone.

                                               



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Ugochi Oritsejolomisan is a Christ-follower, wife to Benson, mother of 3 awesome boys, God's agent, speaker and blogger. Writing to inspire you for a better life in God! Find her on: google
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12 Comments

  1. Really great blog as usual!!! Anyone can give away something they don’t care much about but when it comes to giving something you want or love or when giving inconveniences you, that’s the hardest part. If you’re giving for the right reasons, it’s always rewarding.

    God bless you!!

    1. Amen Jean,
      Giving what we truly love is the true test and thank God for His grace, we can pass the test.
      Thanks Jean for visiting, I appreciate your comments.
      Have a great weekend!

  2. Wow, thanks for sharing this. I have to admit that I’m pretty selfish, so giving is especially difficult for me to do. But as I look back on little instances when I did give, yes, you can’t put a price on the good feeling you get afterwards. It’s almost as if the blessings come back tenfold!

    1. Truth Pepper,
      There is joy in giving, and a reward too!If you keep giving even against your will, you will break selfishness.Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Have a great weekend and God bless!

  3. Hi Ugochi,
    This is such a touching post with a wonderful message. There have been times when I have given things to others even when it was difficult to do so. Afterwards I realised it was the right thing to do and it made me feel so much better. Actually if I did otherwise I would have felt terrible. Thanks for becoming a Follower of my Blog. I am happy to follow back. Have a good weekend and God Bless.
    Judy – JUDY H-J’S THOUGHTS

    1. Hi Judy,
      It sure does feel good, and it pleases our father when we give, like Him. Thanks for stopping by and leaving your thoughts. And for following back. Have a great weekend too!
      Ugochi

  4. the listening ear ? one of the best forms of therapy, go well

    1. Truth Agman,
      Thanks again.

  5. This post really hits home with me today. My sister just had a baby a few days ago. Yesterday I sat with her as she signed adoption papers giving her baby over to a wonderful couple. She did not want to give up her baby, but in her heart, she knew it was the right thing to do. I think the blessings will come back to her. Now she will be able to focus on school, getting her life back in order, and will be able to work on getting the good back in her life. Sometimes giving up something you love is so hard, but necessary in order to make room for other blessings.

    Thanks for stopping by Theresa’s Mixed Nuts

    Following back in gfc and lf 🙂
    Theresa

    1. Oh! She must have been heart broken doing it, but loves baby enough to let her get better care.
      Please send her my love.
      Thanks a lot for visiting and following back.
      Blessings!

  6. So true, its easy to give when we don’t care. But when we do care and don’t want to give what was never truely ours to began with, then the blessing come.

    1. Yes Kendra, it never was truly ours.
      Thanks for stopping by and taking time to comment, I appreciate you.
      Love,
      Ugochi.

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