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Influencing Your Spouse + Anniversary.

Influencing your spouse + anniversaryIt is our wedding anniversay!!! Today my husband and I are fifteen years old in marriage. Hallelujah! Thank you Jesus!

One of the things I am so very grateful to God about is His blessing me with a man who totally loves and fears Him, one who would choose to please Him above all in all his dealings.
He always influences me to make the right choices and do the right things. Many times when he senses that I am about to go the wrong way or he sees that my emotions are beclouding my sense of right judgment he steps in and tries to redirect my focus, for this I am truly grateful. Though sometimes his methods are not exactly pleasing,

I also believe that on more than one occasion God has helped me to help my husband do the right thing. You see, under normal circumstances, many times we are the constant and best influences the Holy Ghost will find for use in the lives of our spouses, if we let Him.

God Expects It.
God expects couples to influence each other positively. He does not only expect us to model Christ to our spouses by our lifestyle, but to also influence them by words of advice, stirring them up to do the right things no matter the situation.

And let us consider and give attentive, continuous care to watching over one another, studying how we may stir up (stimulate and incite) to love and helpful deeds and noble activities.
Hebrews 10:24 AMP

Truth however, is some people have stubborn spouses who would take no counsel from them, such people can be prayed for and brought under God’s influence, even the hardest heart can be softened by one touch from God.

We do it one way or the other.

I find that some people knowingly or unknowingly influence their spouse negatively by their words and actions. Some urge their spouses on to “Give it back to them” when someone offends them, some instigate their spouses to lie or cheat in their work places, some give their spouses ill advice concerning their commitment to God, jobs, family members, relationships…
This shouldn’t be.

We should, by the help of the Holy Spirit be sources of impact in the lives of our spouses such that because of us they become better than we met them. I have heard countless stories of how men and women have so influenced their spouses that they became great in their commitment to God, their attitude, jobs, relationships and more.

Two are better than one, because they have a good [more satisfying] reward for their labour; for if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow. Ecclesiastes 4:9,10a AMP

We can positively influence our spouses in their-

Jobs – By encouraging them to put in their best.
Thoughts – By encouraging them to think positively about some one or an issue.
Attitudes – By encouraging them to develop a healthy attitude to life.
Reactions – By encouraging them to act or react in the positive towards some one or something.
Lifestyle – By encouraging them to live a healthy spiritual, mental, emotional and physical lifestyle.
Relationship with people – By encouraging them to walk in love towards everyone at all times.
Relationship with God – By encouraging them to pursue God with fervency, seeking Him in His Word and in prayer.
This puts a huge task on all of us since we cannot give what we do not have. We have to strive daily to be positive people or we cannot possibly be positive influences to our spouses or any one else. There are so many other ways to influence your spouse positively and so many areas your spouse may be looking to you for influence.

What are the ways you are influencing your spouse?
What are they ways your spouse is influencing you?

Copyright© Teshuva 2015
Update from 2013

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